Tag Archive | God

What!!!  Marriage is Trending

Well  “it’s about time”! It is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, Stop being selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half”, cause they got it going on in that department !!  

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse. Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

Can You Feel the Love ❤️

So much of the power to keep our relationships thriving is in our very own hands. It’s so important to keep talking, touching, kissing,  laughing, and sharing, and do it with your whole heart.  I write encouragement on my fridge weekly for my husband and myself.  That’s one of my ways to keep our relationship fresh.  Remember, we are going on  36 years of marriage!!

My most recent advice was, “Kiss me as if it were the last time!   There’s something wonderful that happens when my husband takes time to look at me and wrap his arms around me in a tender embrace, and really kiss me, not just a quick peck of the lips.   I feel the the love, and I don’t mind so much that he just left his clothes on the bathroom floor.
If you feel things are a little stale or a lot, you decide to do whatever it takes for you and your relationship to thrive.  It is that important!!

A Mothers Love Never Dies

A week ago today, I celebrated my 57th birthday.  My husband took off work to spend the day with me, which was a complete surprise since he never really takes off work!  We were just hanging out talking, riding along , enjoying conversation when in a moment when nothing was really on my mind, my moms face flashed before me, and a warmth came over me that I haven’t felt since the last hug she gave me, I  felt her and I heard her say “Happy birthday baby, I love you”.  My eyes welled up with tears and my heart, although it was happy to be with my “Boo” (husband), was overwhelmed with the love and the memory of my dear sweet mother and her the adoration I always felt from her.  You must understand that she’s been dead for 10 years, and I’ve longed to feel her, to know that she was okay, and I knew in that moment!   Just before that encounter I asked the Lord to let the rain which had clouded my heart stop because It was my special day (Everyone who knows me well knows that I am lover of the sun!)  Then the sweetest thing happened again, the sun shined on me, it literally came out, and I was so thankful again to know Gods love and to feel that “He is particularly fond of me” (The Shack movies). ☺️

I’ve learned in life that we will deal with loss, pain, and deep sadness, but no matter the pain or struggle, it makes it all the more bearable when we have hope, and joy in knowing there is someone who watches over us, who orders our steps simply because we love Him enough to be faithful, and to honor His sons sacrifice with our lives by living in obedience to His word.

I’m so sure that my experience with my mom on the celebration of my birthday was a gift that I had to share it with you in hopes of encouraging someone who’s feeling down because your mom is no longer with you.  I pray that you celebrate her this Mother’s Day with joyful memories, be happy for the time you were blessed to have her in your life.  God bless you

I felt her love and it was the best gift ever!!   

Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Psalm 103:13. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.

Love, Heartbreak, Love

Love can last a lifetime but sometimes it doesn’t 
Love your husband, love your wife, Learn not sweat the small stuff, like those things that get under your skin for no real good reason! Just love them while you have them with all your heart and with all your patience and understanding. Enjoy every moment with them, adore them and make sure you tell them how much they mean because everything can change in an instant. I sat with a church member and friend as her husband of only 7 months pass over into eternity. They are a young couple and James had only been sick a few weeks. My heart absolutely broke for her. On my ride home I thanked God for the time they had together and I asked Him to help her deal with the extreme pain that she is and must continue to endure.
We all believe our love is forever when we find our true love and I believe it can unless one of those lives is taken, we can be together and in love forever, it simply takes lots of love, honor, patience, kindness, and understanding but more than anything we can do, it takes a true and Unwavering faith in God to help us when times get tough.  

Please pray for Dionne and James’s family.  

You will get through it

As I read my devotional this morning, I realized it was my story as well.  This just goes to show that no matter what we go through, we are not alone.  Someone has experienced the same pain, loss, hurt, discouragement as you are going through in this very moment, so don’t allow yourself to become so overwhelmed during the trial that you lose hope for your future.  You will get through it, and you’ll be able to help someone else as they go through their life issues because you made it (testify).

Let “em” go

You could be rejected and not understand what’s happening.  So let me help you out.  When you keep reaching out, and they don’t reciprocate (return the gesture) it may be that they don’t want to talk, be friends, or communicate with you any longer.  You should understand that most  relationships are meant to be lifelong.   

Try not to be upset if you are being ignored, avoided, or even “unfriended on social media”. See your own worth and decide that you are going to be adult about this, and even be okay with greeting them with a smile if you see them in passing.

So have your moment of “How dare they reject me” then tell yourself,  If they want to go, let them go! 

1 Peter 2:4 ESV,  ” As you come to Him (Jesus), He is a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious”

We are different, but We are still family

 I have always wondered how kids with the same parents can be so different.  Although I love my siblings, we are not extremely close.  My oldest sister who has always identified as “The black sheep” of the family went so far as to move to the midsection of the country all on her own years ago but even as teenagers I never allowed her to get too far from me.  I’m that one who makes sure to always keep in touch.

Well that same sister recently had a heart attack and has since passed away.  I’m okay because I know I did my part in keeping a relationship with her.  I always told her that I loved her, and I made sure we talked pretty regularly, as a matter of fact the day before she went to the hospital we spoke and she was so excited about finally learning how to text on her new phone.  I laughed because she really had not gotten the hang of it (so cute).

I said all that to say,  no matter what the circumstance, family is just that “family”.  Don’t allow arguments, differences or misunderstandings to keep you from communicating.  Don’t wait until it’s too late to say “I love you”, “I’m sorry or “I was wrong, forgive me”.  Don’t wait to show your loved ones you care, even if the issue hasn’t been totally resolved.

 If you love them, tell them while you can, because living with the guilt of being too stubborn to talk or even to tolerate them because of your differences may be more than you can bare if they are suddenly taken from you forever.

Luke 17:3-4 So if your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke (tell) them and if they repent, forgive them.  Even if they sin (offend) against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying, “I’m sorry”, you must forgive them

Matthew 6:14-15. For if you forgive others when they sin against you (offend ), your Heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sin, your Heavenly Father will not forgive you sin (offenses) against Him!