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Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.


God kept me, He held me together

Don’t be so quick to say someone doesn’t understand what you’re going through. You never know what a person has gone through just by looking at them. People suffer in silence or they find ways to cope with their adversities. Never assume you know the whole story about anyone just because of what you see in this moment.

While standing in my kitchen washing dishes, and listening to gospel music, a song came on (Zacardi Cortez “God held me together) which reminded me of how the Lord has kept me. I began to recall things I haven’t thought about in years, all while knowing how intentional I believe God has been in keeping me for this moment in life, to be an encouragement, spiritual support, voice of reason or simply a listening ear for everyone He would send my way.

Just so you understand some of what i’ve overcome, my first real memory of how God has kept me from hurt, pain and even death was God delivering me from sexual abuse when I was just eight or nine years old, then a memory of God keeping me from being  abducted on my way home from school one day, my dad showed up just as the guys had blocked me in and were getting out of their car.  I remember him running with all his might (he was a big man).  I also remembered almost being shot by a stray bullet while my siblings and I played on the street (an NYPD car chase).   One of the most painful memories was when my dad who I know loved me from the depths of his heart had a nervous breakdown and my baby brother and I had to literally run for our lives, because it seemed that my fathers intention was to kill his family and then himself! My next memory was in my youthful stupidity, I tried recreational drugs (weed) and apparently my boyfriend at the time laced it with something extra.  To this day I have no memory of that night (crazy right). I also experienced issues with depression early in my marriage while my husband was deployed oversees in the Navy. It was to the point that I contemplated taking my life and my baby girls who was in the car with me at the time. I was so lonely and angry that I was in the situation I was in but it was only in that moment I gave into the voices that told me to pull in front of a dump truck to end my pain and disappointment.  It was that moment I looked over into my daughters sweet little eyes that I knew I had to live. God had a call on her and the baby boy I would have a few years later. God held me together for my family and so many others. Be encouraged, whatever you are going through is only for a season, It won’t last always.
Psalm 30:5 Weeping may endure for a night but joy will come in the morning

I’ll Be There

Have you ever been in a situation where you couldn’t help the person you love to feel better? It’s a very frustrating place to find yourself, but don’t give up and try not to be impatient with them

It’s easy for some people to vent, to empty themselves of whatever is bothering them, but for others, it’s like pulling teeth to get them to express how they feel. It’s a painstaking process that can test a relationship, nevertheless, they need to know that someone is there for them in their loneliness, anxiety, depression, or hopelessness. Be understanding, be patient, be kind, most of all, be there the same way you would want someone to be there for you.

To Everything, There is A Season

The bible tells us, there is a time and a season for everything in our lives, (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

So many people are under an extreme amount of pressure these days, experiencing depression and anxiety and not quite understanding what is going on with them. I feel it is important to be open about the fact that, while dealing with my precious mothers sickness, shortly after her death, I had a nervous breakdown! That happened because I was so overwhelmed and depressed, but mostly because, I didn’t talk about what was going on within me. I over thought every decision I made about her medical care, the surgeries, even agreeing to let her no longer be treated with dialysis. She just wanted to live out the rest of her days in peace, and I let her.

If you are experiencing the pain of sickness, sadness, anxiety depression or loss, it may not seem like it right now, but your pain is only temporary. You have to fight to get better. You may be crying, but your tears will soon dry. You will feel happiness again, you will smile again. “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5).


It’s Only A Test

With all that my husband and I have been through in our lives together, we have come to understand how life can change so quickly. Someone opened their eyes to life changed forever this morning. Tragedy struck without a moments notice, sickness, disease, death, even anxiety and depression. There’s nothing we can do about what happens to us but, we can prepare ourselves to get through anything that comes our way. “I can do all things, With Christ who strengthens me”, (Philippians 4:13). We are warned that life is full of troubles but God will help us to overcome them all, (Job 14:1), and because we are warned, we should be equipping ourselves with the word of God, in order to overcome anything that comes our way, (1 Peter 1:13, Luke 12:35).

“If you abide in me , and My Word abide in you, you can ask what you want and it shall be given to you” (John 15:7)

Happy New Opportunity!!!

Are you feeling a little isolated, closed in, shut off from the rest of the world?

Life is what we make of it! Are you the person who everyone wonders, “what happened to them”? Think about how you used to enjoy your free time, doing things other than catching up on television shows, playing video games or finding now yourself regularly drinking alone. A solution to not getting bogged down, is not to allow yourself to be totally consumed by one thing (work, children, television, caring for others or even fear). If you are not happy with how life is, make up your mind to try and make some changes.

If you miss your friends, reach out to them, call them. If you feel isolated, get up, get out and do something, if only going for a walk to take in some fresh air, and enjoy the outdoors. I have always noticed when I’m walking or running, I think about nothing other than what I see, it’s so refreshing.

Don’t allow your past year to define your next year. The mind is a powerful thing. The bible says, “As a man thinks, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).


“Tis the season” for The Christmas Blues,

“Tis’ the season” that so many are sad, lonely and lose hope. The very time in which we chose to rejoice and celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, satan purposely causes depression, hopelessness, anxiety or the pain of the death of a loved one to increase drastically. Yes the pain is real, but I also believe it is to distract us from the joy of the season, since it seems to increase so much during this Holiday season.

The bible says “if we submit to God, we can resist the devil and he must flee”, he will literally run away! (James 4:7) along with the anxiety, sadness and loneliness he brings. Begin your healing by spending time with The Lord first thing every morning. Christ, of His own will, came into a sin filled world, lived, taught and gave His life for us! Talk to Him (praying) as if He is right beside you (He is)! First, thank Him for being Lord of all, then confess your sins, he knows them already, He just wants to know you will tell Him. Thank Him for keeping you even in that sin, tell Him your concerns, your pain, and fears. Don’t forget to pray for others and then end your prayer by thanking Him, for what He’s done, and for what He’s going to do. Rejoice and Make it a “Merry Christmas” and a Happy New Year!

“No weapon formed against you shall prosper” Isaiah 54:17, “I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears” (Psalm 34:4). “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God” (Psalm 42:5).