Some of the worst times in our marriage, were do to money problems (not having enough). As a young couple, we felt the need to buy for all of our family at Christmas. I would spend, and We would deal with the consequences of my reckless behavior after the fact, and later when the bills came, so did the regret I felt. Thank God I learned to change that destructive behavior.
My advice to anyone, especially young couples and young people living on a limited income is, at Christmas or anytime, live and spend within your means! !! If you can’t afford to buy gifts, don’t! Learn to be crafty, make gifts, bake gifts (cookies, pies, cakes), give cards that express how much you care. Those who love you and who genuinely care about you will love your words. We don’t communicate enough anyway. Don’t give into the pressure of giving when you don’t have it to give. Don’t allow yourself or your family to go into debt giving gifts that you can not afford. It will only create problems in your relationship later on.
It’s Jesus’s birthday we are supposed to be celebrating! He should be receiving the gift of you living your life to please Him, because He cared enough to leave His heavenly father, to be born to the Virgin Mary into a sinful world. He lived and taught Gods will, and then He willingly gave His life on the cross for the salvation of the entire world. Luke 2:1-20, Matthew 27:32-56
Does giving gifts have take away from the true meaning of Christmas? No, it does not. If we focus on the wonderful gift of salvation the Lord has given us (Isaiah 9:6), giving to others is a natural expression of that gratitude. The key is our focus. Is your focus on the gift, or on the ultimate gift-giver, our gracious Heavenly Father? “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights…” (James 1:17).
I was doing some Christmas shopping the other day and started to feel some kind of way about the serious stress I was seeing on the faces of other shoppers. I listened to conversations and watched disputes take place all in the name of Christmas giving.
It was depressing, I felt a bit convicted about the whole thing. Why do we try to do so much, stressing over pleasing people when the purpose is to give a thoughtful gift in the name of love and kindness.
The reason is I believe is that we are now doing way too much. We want to impress others, we want to compete with others, and in the process we create more debt than we can afford.
Let’s try to remember the real reason for this season, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ selflessly coming into this world to save us from eternal suffering.
It’s pretty simple, show love in how you care. Give meaningful gifts, gift that supply a need not just a want, and not just at Christmas
Over a year or so ago, I asked you to help us pray for healing from cancer for my friend Elise. God did just that, He healed her to the point that cancer was almost non existent in her body. Well the cancer has come back and has spread to other parts of Elise’s body. We believe that her healing will be on this side of life, so I ask all of you to stand with us in prayer for Elise and her healing. Please pray as specific as she has requested below, and we will give God praise for “He is still healing”. Please pray for a miracle in the life of this young woman and her family. Elise has 5 year old twins and a wonderful husband. She is a twin herself and has a fully devoted family as well as friends standing united in prayer and faith along side her. Please stand with us in believing for her healing on this side of life, in the name of Jesus Christ our Savior and Lord.
I married my husband believing he was well capable of taking care of me, a God fearing man who I knew I could depend on in every way, and although I have all this love and trust for him, I am very aware that he is not Lord of my life. His views are his and I do not always see things his way. I realize his place in my life, and it’s not the same as The Lord God’s place in my life. Be very careful when you place a human being and/or their views before your Heavenly Father and what He commands of His children. God is a jealous God, no one and nothing is to come before Him. Exodus 4034:14, Deuteronomy 6:15
No other relationship is going to work when it comes to our emotional and spiritual healing. Why? Because God did not create us to go through life on our own (depending on one another solely). He made us for His Glory. He created us to be in fellowship with Him first and foremost. Certainly He wants us to have good relationships with our spouses and all our other relationships, but the number one relationship for each of us as Christians is an intimate relationship with God our heavenly father and Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.
If we are faithful in nurturing our relationship with Him, God blesses us in every other area of our lives, He helps us through those rough patches we sometimes find ourselves in. It might not always work out the way we want or think it should workout but we must remember, ” All things work together for your good, for those who are the called according Gods purpose”. “All things”, means everything, good, bad and indifferent.
Psalms 121:5-8. The Lord is your keeper, the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. The Lord will keep you from all harm, he will watch over your coming and your going both now and forever.