Tag Archive | joy

What!!!  Marriage is Trending

Well  “it’s about time”! It is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, Stop being selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half”, cause they got it going on in that department !!  

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse. Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

A Mothers Love Never Dies

A week ago today, I celebrated my 57th birthday.  My husband took off work to spend the day with me, which was a complete surprise since he never really takes off work!  We were just hanging out talking, riding along , enjoying conversation when in a moment when nothing was really on my mind, my moms face flashed before me, and a warmth came over me that I haven’t felt since the last hug she gave me, I  felt her and I heard her say “Happy birthday baby, I love you”.  My eyes welled up with tears and my heart, although it was happy to be with my “Boo” (husband), was overwhelmed with the love and the memory of my dear sweet mother and her the adoration I always felt from her.  You must understand that she’s been dead for 10 years, and I’ve longed to feel her, to know that she was okay, and I knew in that moment!   Just before that encounter I asked the Lord to let the rain which had clouded my heart stop because It was my special day (Everyone who knows me well knows that I am lover of the sun!)  Then the sweetest thing happened again, the sun shined on me, it literally came out, and I was so thankful again to know Gods love and to feel that “He is particularly fond of me” (The Shack movies). ☺️

I’ve learned in life that we will deal with loss, pain, and deep sadness, but no matter the pain or struggle, it makes it all the more bearable when we have hope, and joy in knowing there is someone who watches over us, who orders our steps simply because we love Him enough to be faithful, and to honor His sons sacrifice with our lives by living in obedience to His word.

I’m so sure that my experience with my mom on the celebration of my birthday was a gift that I had to share it with you in hopes of encouraging someone who’s feeling down because your mom is no longer with you.  I pray that you celebrate her this Mother’s Day with joyful memories, be happy for the time you were blessed to have her in your life.  God bless you

I felt her love and it was the best gift ever!!   

Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Psalm 103:13. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.

You Don’t Know Better

I have found in my marriage as well as in life that just about any real issue I’ve experienced is as a direct result of a decision or a choice that I’ve made without praying, without asking God if I should or shouldn’t… God’s word assures us that if we acknowledge Him (ask God), and He will direct us if we allow Him to.  

Have you ever wondered why you seem to always end up doing what you know you should not?   It’s because “we are born in sin and shaped in iniquity” , we are naturally sinful (Psalm 51:5).   We make bad choices and decisions, and then we point the finger of blame in any direction other than back at ourselves when everything falls apart.

If you want to make fewer mistakes, in order to have a better life, better relationships, happiness, and peace of mind, start by asking God about everything important to you before you make a move. It’s not a sign of weakness or an inability to make your own decisions, it’s about letting Him who created you, keep you from taking unnecessary detours on the way to a successful, happy and a productive life. He made us, and as our Creator,  He knows everything about His creation!

Psalm 119:116 Uphold me according to your word, that I may live…

Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go: … 

Giving it all you got

My husband and I regularly  reflect on our lives together.  We certainly realize how differently our lives could have been if we had not met, fallen in love, gotten married, and stayed married.   It’s important to express to one another how much we appreciate each other for being supportive throughout our lives together with all of its crooks, and turns. 

The thing is,  life is largely what we make of it.   You have more control over your future than you realize. Trusting God, and living a life of obedience to His Word is the beginning of joy, peace, and happiness,  and success

God’s Word promises us so much, Her only asks for our obedience to His word.  

“If you abide in Me and My Word abides in you, you can ask whatever you will, and it shall be given unto you” (John 15:7).  

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.  (Jeremiah 29:11) 

You Don’t Know

One of the worse things you can do to yourself, or to your relationship is to put your life, your possessions or your success side by side with someone elses and compare them.   You have no idea of their price they have paid,  the sacrifices they made to obtain what they have. For all you know,  they  could be struggling to keep that life you envy. 

Glorify God with your life,  be obedient to His word,  and watch Him give you the desires of your heart.

John 15:7-9

Submit to who? Why?

So I had a moment recently in which I was forced even more to remind myself to be submissive.

As I  have told you more than once, submissiveness is an ongoing process for all of us.  It is not always easy for me to conduct myself as an agreeable and humble wife, but the Holy spirit is always right there to remind me of my role as a wife because I ask Him to help me. 

I know, I know, but it is a process and if your heart is in it, and your goal is to please our God, then it really does get easier with time, prayer and God’s power to help you.

Colossians 3:16-19

16. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. 18. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19. Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

Okay, okay,  I’m done.  Fix your face and have a great day😒

The Right One

When my husband sometimes pats himself on the back for marrying me and making my life so wonderful, I laugh and remind him of how “I would have made any man want to be a better man because I would have encouraged any man to work hard, to achieve great things, and to of course to make me happy”.

Well, I was watching my favorite morning show the other day when the story of a woman and a homeless man was featured, It reminded me of my saying.  The story was told of how this homeless man asked this woman for money and she began to cry.  She told him she didn’t have enough money for what she urgently needed in her life at the moment.  This mans heart went out to her, he gave her all the money he had collected that day.  Now this was a person who she passed regularly who was always asking others for a hand out instead of working to help himself.  

They became friends and kept in touch after that.  Because of their encounter that man went and found a job, and started working regularly, something he was not motivated to do before that chance meeting.  They changed each others lives during a time of need for them both.  Well, they were married recently and because of their story, their community came together and gave them a wedding with all the trimmings.  
The moral of this story is that there is someone for everyone, keep your heart open for love.
The right person can and will change your life for the better.  The right person could be someone who may look totally different than what you think you want, someone who has never really had a reason to be responsible but now will change because they found a purpose in you, a reason to be productive, a reason to do what they would not do for themselves for love, for you.

Gods plan doesn’t always line up with our shallow hearts, or our lists, so don’t be so stuck on what you think you want a person to look like, what they must have achieved or how much money they should make.  You may find more happiness with less stuff once you find the right person to share life with. 

Love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not selfish, is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…  1 Corinthians 13:4-8