Then why do you think it’s so hard sometimes to be patient, to smile or to even speak kind words to the person who you stood before God and in the presence of witnesses, and pledged (vowed) to love, honor, and cherish, “till death us do part”.
Maybe this is you, and maybe you’ve attempted to change in the past but sadly find yourself always falling back into your old ways of anger, hostility, intolerance, or even impoliteness. Paul (the writer of Romans) says, “When I would do good, evil is always present”. This scripture is proof that we need God to help us with our behavior as well as lifes challenges which we are not capable of overcoming of our own strength. I have a solution!! Why not Ask God!!. He made you, He knows your every weakness, strength and your hearts desire to be a better you. Think about it, we tend to pray about everything else that seems to be of importantance to us, why not our relationship problems, our bad habits, and especially childhood issues which we haven’t yet resolved. If not resolve, overcome, or controlled, they will truly reak havoc on a relationship in adulthood.
Now please understand, a change can never take place if you don’t recognize that you are guilty of any of these behaviors. My prayer for you, is that you are first honest enough to recognize the truth about yourself, and from this day forward you would at least treat one another with the common courtesy and the respect you may show to your coworkers, and even complete strangers! We all have do it! I’ve been guilty of the same behavior myself, but thank God for allowing me to see my own flaws and then I correct myself.
Don’t put it off, start by pledging not to leave your home another day, and allow yourself to treat coworkers, associates or even perfect strangers better than the person you vowed to love, honor and cherish! Practice better behavior, speaking kindly, softly, and lovingly.
Our mission above all in marriage should be, to love each other as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.
1. Love flows through a marriage which lives up to mutual responsibility and respect. Love is not self seeking, it’s not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong doings. (1 Corinthians 13:5)
2. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
3. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13)