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Marriage is Honorable 

While on a road trip recently ,  my husband was listening to one of his favorite old school CDs when a song (Put it on paper) came on.  It reminded me of something our minister said in his sermon that Sunday .  He talked about how he counseled a couple who were having problems first of all because the man in the relationship didn’t want to get married.  His statement to the minister was, “Why do I need a piece of paper to say I’m committed to a person”.  The minister responded so wisely in my opinion with this statement; He said,  Do you drive, you must have a drivers license.  Do you have a weapon, then you must have a permit to carry it.  Do you fish, then you have to have a fishing license, So if you are willing to obtain a license for all those things, why not love her enough to do the legal and spiritually correct thing and marry her if you are truly committed to her and the relationship???
And just this morning I heard on the morning show why Opra Winfrey said she couldn’t marry long time partner excuses, excuses, excuses!   Bottom line is, don’t allow anyone to devalue you with their selfish excuses or childhood issues and personal hang ups.  If they aren’t willing to do the right thing by you,  they might not be the right person for you.

Hebrews 13:4. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

For Peace Sake

I watched a dance show the other night and a couple who were contestants shared candidly about how they had trouble in their relationship, and how it was at that point they had to make a decision whether they were going to work out their relationship or allow their marriage to fail.  They chose to make a conscious effort to stay married each and every day through any bad feelings or misunderstandings in order to work out their differences and make their marriage work.

Sometimes things get so hard in our relationships that we must take extreme measures if we are going to survive together.   I suggest from my own experience that you try to start each day praying together, before the stress of the day begins.  Start each day committing to staying married, committing to working out issues, not arguing, not fighting, not fussing and not sweating the small stuff.  It’s a very intimate moment and it will allow you to hear from the heart of the person you love.

As I said to some good friends yesterday, choose your battles wisely, don’t bicker about every little thing, things that you know deep down in your heart aren’t going to change much, if at all.  Resolve to find a better way to deal with those things for peace sake, and above all remember that God looks over our faults, so let’s learn to be gracious and merciful towards one another as well.

1 Corinthians 3:14, love is patient, love is kind

Roman 12:18, if possible so much as it depends on you, live at peace with one another 

It could have been me

As I watched the news yesterday,  I saw a mother who did not know where her son was after the mass shooting in Orlando Florida at a gay night club.   My heart melted for her as she explained how she was not getting help finding her son.   She described him in detail as her tears flowed. Her love for her son was so evident, and her pain penetrated my soul.

I immediately put myself in her place and knew that even if my son or daughter decided to live an alternative lifestyle  (gay), I would still love them deeply because as their mother, I gave birth to them, they lived in my body for 9 months, and  I always have their best interest in mind.

Pray for the mothers and the families of those who died as well as those who were injured. 

We can not stand in judgment,  we simply must love and should pray for those who are hurting.   God will be the judge.   We are commanded to love, so let’s do just that.

Matthew 7:1-3.
Judge not, that you be not judged

John 13:34
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

The “Real” deal

I was watching my favorite morning show when Toni Tennille of the 70’s & 80’s singing duo Captain and Tennille was on the show talking about what we now know was a very unhappy marriage.  The problem was that for the sake of their careers and from the public perception everything seemed fine, they seemed to be happily married!
She recently wrote a book telling how and why the relationship is now over.  She writes that they were married because her mother and their agent wanted it especially after they had a child together, so they did it.  She tells how she was a very happy and affectionate person but her husband was not because of his difficult childhood.  The thing is, she knew this before she said “I do”!  Big mistake!  As I have said many times, people are generally who they are when you meet them.  You can’t change the fabric of who a person truly is.  They are who they are and not likely to change, no matter how hard they may try.  Only God can change us and that is only when we acknowledge we are broken or we recognize we have a problem.

I’m pretty sure I have told you guys before that even in my happy marriage, my husband and I revisit some of the same issues every 6 months or so like clock work, and that’s okay,  that’s how we function because we are very different people.  I love him so much because he has always been willing to work on those things which don’t come as naturally to him as they do to me (affection and social activity).

The moral of this story is, if you are making excuses for them constantly, take the blinders off!   If you are in a relationship with someone who has ways that drive you up a wall or you says things like, “I think they are great” but…  Don’t look over those problems or issues because after they hurt you, you have “great make up sex” (a no no as a Christian anyway), or “they are so good looking” (we look so great together), please don’t be this shallow concerning your life. 

Weigh the pros (happiness, joy) against the cons (unhappiness, pain, disfunction) before you take the leap into what “should be “a life long relationship together, and above all don’t be desperate, don’t allow yourself to be deceived for the sake of having a relationship.

Life is tough enough, but life with someone who is not concerned about your overall happiness and well-being as much as they are with their own,  would be very unhappy and evermore sad knowing you saw all the signs before you committed to it..

Go into every relationship with your eyes wide open.  Ask God to show you those things which you can not see about or in them for yourself.  Ask God to show you all things that may be hidden from you on purpose! If you are honest with yourself, we all know how to put the best of us on display in order to get what we want, don’t we?

Proverbs 12:22
Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.

John 8:32
You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free

Jesus Knows and He Cares

We all go through things in our lives, in our marriages and in our relationships, and we think when we are going through it, “I never thought this could happen to me”, but when we have faith in God, we have hope.   Jesus hears our expressions of sadness, of pain, of disappointments spoken and unspoken. He’s so familiar with the unspoken pain which comes from our wordless sighs, the sound of our falling tears, and even the pain of our soul’s silent cry of, “Why Lord”?  

BUT !!  He wants us to speak honestly and openly with Him, (Pray).  He not only wants us to experience the healing that comes from sharing our hearts, and hurts with Him, but He also wants to comfort us in knowing that He does always listen, and In love, He offers help and hope during our troubled times.   As we practice talking openly and honestly with The Lord, (Pray), we will start to feel a sense of peace, of relief which comes from our trust in Him knowing everything about us because, He is our creator, The One who understands us more than we understand ourselves.

“Trust In The Lord with all of your heart and lean not to your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths”, Proverbs 3:5-6.

What Does Your Tree Say About You

I love people watching, figuring out personalities, quietly listening to the words people speak as well as watching their actions. You do know that “Actions speak louder than words”. It’s not judging, it’s simple observation. People although they may try, can not hide who they really are for long.   Who we are, even that which we don’t like about ourselves will come seeping out little by little, just like a drippy faucet. 

 It’s important to be mindful of who you allow to influence our lives but, especially as Christians, it is more important to surround yourself with positive influences but, not to think of yourself higher or better than others.  “Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 26:18).   If we are all equal in God’s sight, then who are we to feel superior to anyone?  Careful!  Life has a way of knocking us off those pedistals we perch ourselves upon, while looking down our noses at others. Our “stuff”, our looks, our education, our jobs, our church status, even our intellect can cause us to unintentionally be perceived as stuck up or prideful.  We dress to impress, to get attention and compliments, for what exactly?   Ask yourself “Why do I need that type of attention?

As followers of Christ, we are to live humbly and peaceably with others and to show love.   In these days and times of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and the “selfy”, humility is so hard to come by.  Don’t get caught up in the hype, life is not a competition, we don’t have to try to “one up” one another.  Live a comfortable life, an affordable life, and always help others.  “You will know a tree by the fruit it bears” (Mathew 7:15), so check out the fruit in your life and of the people in and around your life.  Regularly evaluate yourself so that you will be found pleasing in God’s sight, no one else’s opinion matters more than His!

In this Moment

I smiled when my son recently shared this statement with me. “Why do we live life in the future, when tomorrow is not promised. We should focus on living today to the fullest”.

Strive with all you have in you, to be content with the life you have in this moment, with great expectations for your future.

“For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal”. 2 Corinthians 4: 17-18,

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