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The Good Old Days

It seems as though time is slipping away right before our very eyes. Are you making the most of your time? I believe we try to make time for who and what is important to us or so we think, but can you truly be present (in the moment) with yourcell phone, your iPad or tablet in your face, mindlessly scrolling the internet, through Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest or looking at sports videos and YouTube, Nope!

I remember a simpler time, back when my husband and I had so much contempt for the devices we are now literally “joined at the hip” with. We even talked back then about how “those darn mobile phones” would be the demise of society. The young people were using them in order not to have real interaction, they were a way out of having to deal with people. Now adults are doing the same thing!

We actually peaked into the future, didn’t we!

If this is going to change, we must now be intentional with putting our devices down, making eye contact, saying “Hi”. Your conversation could be the only real and hopefully (positive) interaction a person has today.

Here’s the thing, If you are older, you remember what life was like without a mobile phone, tablets, and all this technology. The world was a much friendlier place, people talked, there was very little internet activity at home (it was at work only) to rob us of hours of our precious time on earth.

Don’t fret! We can get it back! Good old fashioned communication is not totally lost. We just have to be intentional in doing it! Say “Hi” to a stranger, have a conversation in the doctors office, on the elevator, in line waiting for coffee or try this, pick up your phone and call someone instead of texting them!

Let’s go back to the “old time” ways

Colossians 4:5

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

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#miracleforElise

Hi

I am writing this post today because I need your prayers.

My young friend Elise Bethel has been fighting stage 4 Metastatic breast cancer for 3 years now, which is a miracle in itself that she’s still here!! Out of her struggle came inspiration for others (Fight apparel). She through her own struggle has been an encouragement to so many and I love her dearly.

Her treatments were going very well until recently when she has been hospitalized multiple times. It’s been a long hard fight and rather than to be so sick from the treatment, she has decided to discontinue Chemo-therapy and be at home with her family under Hospice care.

Elise is a wife and mother of 5 year old twins and a twin herself. Elise says she is still in the fight and we are trusting God! So I ask you to pray and appeal to your ferverent praying friends on her behalf to pray for miraculous healing for Elise.

#miracleforElise

Thank you

God bless you

Ollie

Fresh or Stale

It is said that some things get better with age (a good wine, a well aged steak etc), but I add, they only get better with proper care, and maintenance. I’m 57 now but even as a young wife, the one thing I vowed would never be okay in my marriage was for us to lose our passion (not love) for one another, and I work very hard at making sure we stay connected. My husband has his way as well, he has always been active in making sure I’m happy and laughing. He is a “Joker”.

It really helps that I had great examples of a healthy relationship, with love, and respect from my parents., Yes! your children are watching and learning how to love and relate from your example.

Example;

I love to dance but my husband doesn’t like to so much (in public), so sometimes when he’s feeling it, he puts on a slow song and reaches for me, and I melt right into his arms. Yesssssss! 😍

I challenge you, think about how you used to get your spouses attention romantically. Why not start doing that (Yes! That!) again. A relationship grows old, stale, and stagnant when proper care is not taken to maintain, and to keep it fresh and vibrant.

Watch out now!

Love, expectance, and tolerance, whether it be learned behavior, practiced or genetic, the struggle is real! It’s not always easy to be good, do good and to walk in line with Gods word!

We are directed to try with all our hearts to love and be at peace with one another! and that includes our spouses. He (the Lord) requires of us to love unconditionally, not “If they do, then I will”. If we say we love God, then we must love one another, PERIOD!!

Proverbs 6:16-19

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:

1. haughty eyes (thinks highly of ones self over others)

2. a lying tongue (not completely honest)

3. hands that shed innocent blood (murderer)

4. a heart that devises wicked plans (setting snares/planning wrong)

5. feet that make haste to run to evil (messy/ lovers of confusion)

6. a false witness who breathes out lies (under oath) who sow discord among family

Love is Patient and Kind

There seems to be a running theme with people today, It is impatience and intolerance. We don’t seem to be able to contain our anger or frustrations with one another and it’s affecting the lives of our families and friends greatly.

It’s funny though (not ha ha) how we tend to choose who we are patient with (who receives our full wrath) and who we choose to be tolerant with instead of extending  grace to everyone indiscriminately.  Sadly our tolerance is less with our spouses, children and family members and more with strangers 😞.

If we consistently conduct our lives in love, then we show the same love to everyone which our heavenly Father shows toward us daily.

Love is patience, kind, full of joy, showingself control…Galatians 5:22

Proverbs 19:11

Proverbs 22:4

Proverbs 29:11

BUT WAIT! Who’s birthday is it anyway?

Some of the worst times in our marriage, were do to money problems (not having enough). As a young couple, we felt the need to buy for all of our family at Christmas. I would spend, and We would deal with the consequences of my reckless behavior after the fact, and later when the bills came, so did the regret I felt. Thank God I learned to change that destructive behavior.

My advice to anyone, especially young couples and young people living on a limited income is, at Christmas or anytime, live and spend within your means! !! If you can’t afford to buy gifts, don’t! Learn to be crafty, make gifts, bake gifts (cookies, pies, cakes), give cards that express how much you care. Those who love you and who genuinely care about you will love your words. We don’t communicate enough anyway. Don’t give into the pressure of giving when you don’t have it to give. Don’t allow yourself or your family to go into debt giving gifts that you can not afford. It will only create problems in your relationship later on.

It’s Jesus’s birthday we are supposed to be celebrating! He should be receiving the gift of you living your life to please Him, because He cared enough to leave His heavenly father, to be born to the Virgin Mary into a sinful world. He lived and taught Gods will, and then He willingly gave His life on the cross for the salvation of the entire world. Luke 2:1-20, Matthew 27:32-56

I wish you a Merry Christmas with no regrets.

Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.