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Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

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God kept me, He held me together

Don’t be so quick to say someone doesn’t understand what you’re going through. You never know what a person has gone through just by looking at them. People suffer in silence or they find ways to cope with their adversities. Never assume you know the whole story about anyone just because of what you see in this moment.

While standing in my kitchen washing dishes, and listening to gospel music, a song came on (Zacardi Cortez “God held me together) which reminded me of how the Lord has kept me. I began to recall things I haven’t thought about in years, all while knowing how intentional I believe God has been in keeping me for this moment in life, to be an encouragement, spiritual support, voice of reason or simply a listening ear for everyone He would send my way.

Just so you understand some of what i’ve overcome, my first real memory of how God has kept me from hurt, pain and even death was God delivering me from sexual abuse when I was just eight or nine years old, then a memory of God keeping me from being  abducted on my way home from school one day, my dad showed up just as the guys had blocked me in and were getting out of their car.  I remember him running with all his might (he was a big man).  I also remembered almost being shot by a stray bullet while my siblings and I played on the street (an NYPD car chase).   One of the most painful memories was when my dad who I know loved me from the depths of his heart had a nervous breakdown and my baby brother and I had to literally run for our lives, because it seemed that my fathers intention was to kill his family and then himself! My next memory was in my youthful stupidity, I tried recreational drugs (weed) and apparently my boyfriend at the time laced it with something extra.  To this day I have no memory of that night (crazy right). I also experienced issues with depression early in my marriage while my husband was deployed oversees in the Navy. It was to the point that I contemplated taking my life and my baby girls who was in the car with me at the time. I was so lonely and angry that I was in the situation I was in but it was only in that moment I gave into the voices that told me to pull in front of a dump truck to end my pain and disappointment.  It was that moment I looked over into my daughters sweet little eyes that I knew I had to live. God had a call on her and the baby boy I would have a few years later. God held me together for my family and so many others. Be encouraged, whatever you are going through is only for a season, It won’t last always.
Psalm 30:5 Weeping may endure for a night but joy will come in the morning

Alone Time

I remember going through a really bad bout of anxiety after my mother died.  It was one of the worse times in my life.  I could not function, nor could I fix myself.  I couldn’t pray or feel as though God was hearing me, but God always had His hand on me,  He sent me help in the person of a therapist through Hospice, free of charge, no less!  She helped me to get back to the reality of my life.  I eventually healed because I was faithful in using the resource that God provided.

Worry, and Panic, won’t solve anything.  Acting out in anger because you don’t understand what is going on, or because you’re tired of your situation, won’t help either.   If you have had enough of the enemy having control in your life, get alone in a quiet place, where there will be no interruptions, early in the morning (your first fruit of the day).  Prayask God what is the reason for this time in your life.  You may not get an answer right away, but continue to make Him a priority in your life every day (read His word, pray) John 15:7.   Ask Him to guide you in everything you do daily.  He will!  

This simple practice will cause you to grow closer to God, to live in obedience, and before you know it, this terrible time in your life will be just a memory, and a testimony of what happened in your past to draw you closer to God.  


To Everything, There is A Season

The bible tells us, there is a time and a season for everything in our lives, (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

So many people are under an extreme amount of pressure these days, experiencing depression and anxiety and not quite understanding what is going on with them. I feel it is important to be open about the fact that, while dealing with my precious mothers sickness, shortly after her death, I had a nervous breakdown! That happened because I was so overwhelmed and depressed, but mostly because, I didn’t talk about what was going on within me. I over thought every decision I made about her medical care, the surgeries, even agreeing to let her no longer be treated with dialysis. She just wanted to live out the rest of her days in peace, and I let her.

If you are experiencing the pain of sickness, sadness, anxiety depression or loss, it may not seem like it right now, but your pain is only temporary. You have to fight to get better. You may be crying, but your tears will soon dry. You will feel happiness again, you will smile again. “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5).

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It’s Only A Test

With all that my husband and I have been through in our lives together, we have come to understand how life can change so quickly. Someone opened their eyes to life changed forever this morning. Tragedy struck without a moments notice, sickness, disease, death, even anxiety and depression. There’s nothing we can do about what happens to us but, we can prepare ourselves to get through anything that comes our way. “I can do all things, With Christ who strengthens me”, (Philippians 4:13). We are warned that life is full of troubles but God will help us to overcome them all, (Job 14:1), and because we are warned, we should be equipping ourselves with the word of God, in order to overcome anything that comes our way, (1 Peter 1:13, Luke 12:35).

“If you abide in me , and My Word abide in you, you can ask what you want and it shall be given to you” (John 15:7)

Don’t Believe the Hype!

There’s a reason that Gods word describes the devil as “cunning”. So, do not fall into the trap of thinking he (the devil) can’t affect you or your life.

He exaggerates the pleasures of sin, while minimizing the consequences. (Heb. 11:24,25). Observe that phrase: “enjoy the passing pleasures of sin.” The devil approaches us with exaggerated emphasis on the pleasure we can enjoy if we yield to temptation. He is asking us to invest in something with promise of immediate return – but without telling us about the risk, the outcome, the ugly side! The devil is counting on the fact we will see the fun, the pleasure – the joy of a satisfied appetite – acting impulsively. If you stop and think; if you inquire; if you look deeply and consider the consequences , you frustrate the wiles

(strategy or efforts) of the devil. The devil wants us to act on impulse, the immediate pleasure of tempted behavior. (Roman 13:8).

Happiness is a state of mind, heart and spirit!

Dont take it personal, It’s a spiritual fight

The enemies job is to cause us to feel as if we don’t qualify, as if we don’t belong where we know we should be at this time, and to cause our faith to fail. The bible says;” For we wrestle not against flesh and blood (people) but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6:12). Even with all the positive feedback and continued confirmation that this Blog is helping others, the enemy still tries to come in and destroy a good work. Gods Word says; “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

Life is not fair! Problems can seem to be more than we can bear, fear can literally paralyze us if we allow it to, but God will never put more on us than we are able to bear. Keep the faith and “press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Jesus Christ” (Philippians 3:14).

(Isaiah 41:9-10)
You are my servant,
I have chosen you and not cast you off”;
do not fear, for I am with you,
do not be afraid, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.