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Make Time

We make time for who (people) and what (activities) is important to us.

Try not to allow yourself to become so busy or overly exhausted that the very people who you say you love don’t feel it! All they know is you don’t seem to care as much as they care for you! They give their all, never to receive it back from you.

Communication is not just a quick peck on the cheek, a polite “Good morning” or a text message. It’s actually having a real conversation, making time for those you love, making eye contact, giving a real hug, simply showing genuine concern for someone else’s well being!

Make time! Think on itūü§Ē

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Fresh or Stale

It is said that some things get better with age (a good wine, a well aged steak etc), but I add, they only get better with proper care, and maintenance. I’m 57 now but even as a young wife, the one thing I vowed would never be okay in my marriage was for us to lose our passion (not love) for one another, and I work very hard at making sure we stay connected. My husband has his way as well, he has always been active in making sure I’m happy and laughing. He is a “Joker”.

It really helps that I had great examples of a healthy relationship, with love, and respect from my parents., Yes! your children are watching and learning how to love and relate from your example.

Example;

I love to dance but my husband doesn’t like to so much (in public), so sometimes when he’s feeling it, he puts on a slow song and reaches for me, and I melt right into his arms. Yesssssss! ūüėć

I challenge you, think about how you used to get your spouses attention romantically. Why not start doing that (Yes! That!) again. A relationship grows old, stale, and stagnant when proper care is not taken to maintain, and to keep it fresh and vibrant.

Love is Patient and Kind

There seems to be a running theme with people today, It is impatience and intolerance. We don’t seem to be able to contain our anger or frustrations with one another and it’s affecting the lives of our families and friends greatly.

It’s funny though (not ha ha) how we tend to choose who we are patient with (who receives our full wrath) and who we choose to be tolerant with instead of extending ¬†grace to everyone indiscriminately. ¬†Sadly our tolerance is less with our spouses, children and family members and more with strangers¬†ūüėě.

If we consistently conduct our lives in love, then we show the same love to everyone which our heavenly Father shows toward us daily.

Love is patience, kind, full of joy, showingself control…Galatians 5:22

Proverbs 19:11

Proverbs 22:4

Proverbs 29:11

Marriage is Give & Take

Marriage is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, don’t be selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half“, cause they got it going on in that department !!

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands (vision) way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse and yourself! Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God‚ÄČ‚Äč‚ÄĒ‚ÄČ‚Äčwho gives to all generously and ungrudgingly‚ÄČ‚Äč‚ÄĒ‚ÄČ‚Äčand it will be given to him. ‚ÄĒJames 1:5

Listen!!

When you consider all that  is going on in the world today,  consider how sin has brought us to this point.

When we struggle with overcoming sin in our own lives, we must remember that we have a helper.   It is really simple,  all we need do is ask God for help and this is the kicker, then obey Him!  He will help you if you sincerely desire His help and He knows! In my own experience, I have found that  The Holy Spirit will always guide me  in those moments when I am  considering doing wrong.

I was so serious about pleasing God,  that I asked Him to allow me to feel the disappointment He feels when I allow my selfish ways to take control instead of obeying His voice, and then I asked myself why it was so easy for me to willfully disobey Gods word if I truly loved Him, and if I believed that Christ suffered, blead, and died for me.

If you truly love Jesus, ¬†pay attention to that “still small voice” (Jesu living in you) when He¬†says to you, “Don’t do it” or “Stop ¬†before it’s too late”. ¬†That’s the voice of the Holy Spirit¬†in you.

If our sin does not break our heart, we make a mockery of Christ’s supreme sacrifice, Psalm 51.17

“The Storms” of Life

You know when you feel as though everything seems to be going wrong in your life?  Well my husband and I realized the other night, just how much our family has had to endure.

Although the bible tells us to rejoice in troubles, in the natural that seems unrealistic or unachievable until you understand the power of God.  Part of the reason that God allows us to experience sorrows and trials in our lives, is so that we might depend on Him, draw closer to Him, and learn that He is the power which sustains us.  He will  provide for us all that we need at any time in our lives, especially during the trials of life.

All of Gods children go through storms (troubling times), but it is precisely during the “Going through” moments of any crisis, that Gods peace is more evident than ever before.

Just remember that you are “Going through”, not remaing in “The Storm”.¬†

This too shall pass. 2Corinthians 4:17-18

Romans 12:12  Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

Happy Thanksgiving

The optimism which guides my life is what I am truly thankful for.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future

Trust God to guide your life. Give thanks for Jesus for His great sacrifice. Live according to Gods word and watch Him do great things in you and through you

Happy Thanksgiving