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A Treasure

Treasure one another, you never know when life will be over as you know it today. Don’t put off for a tomorrow that which you could enjoy together today.

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Be Kind

Times are so different now which makes most any negative situation almost impossible to resolve without good communication.

The devil has made sure we don’t talk enough, we don’t touch and we don’t even make eye contact and because of that we can quickly misunderstand each other. Our lives are literally filled with STUFF! Work, activities, television shows etc.,

So, when disagreements or misunderstandings occur in our relationships and marriages, how do we handle them? Are you the type of person who shuts down, who avoids confrontations, or are you the type who gets overly emotional when it comes to confronting issues head on.

Well, no matter how you handle it, you can count on the devil doing his thing in your mind (thoughts), “You should’ve said”, ” Why did you let them get away with that”, “They don’t care about your feelings anyway”, “You should be sick of this….. and I could go on button I’m sure you get the picture. My point is, don’t allow the enemy of mankind and everything that is good, to cause you to be uncomfortable about speaking your feelings, speaking your hurt, acknowledging your pain to the one person you vowed to love forever.

Be sure to always pray for peace and understanding in your relationships then speak your heart regularly, not loudly and not in anger, and definitely not with accusations. Instead make your point softly, with love, in a kind way, in hopes of a resolution almost every time.

Remember, practice makes almost perfect!

Ephesians 4:32

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as Christ forgave you.

2 Timothy 2:24

And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

The Good Old Days

It seems as though time is slipping away right before our very eyes. Are you making the most of your time? I believe we try to make time for who and what is important to us or so we think, but can you truly be present (in the moment) with yourcell phone, your iPad or tablet in your face, mindlessly scrolling the internet, through Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest or looking at sports videos and YouTube, Nope!

I remember a simpler time, back when my husband and I had so much contempt for the devices we are now literally “joined at the hip” with. We even talked back then about how “those darn mobile phones” would be the demise of society. The young people were using them in order not to have real interaction, they were a way out of having to deal with people. Now adults are doing the same thing!

We actually peaked into the future, didn’t we!

If this is going to change, we must now be intentional with putting our devices down, making eye contact, saying “Hi”. Your conversation could be the only real and hopefully (positive) interaction a person has today.

Here’s the thing, If you are older, you remember what life was like without a mobile phone, tablets, and all this technology. The world was a much friendlier place, people talked, there was very little internet activity at home (it was at work only) to rob us of hours of our precious time on earth.

Don’t fret! We can get it back! Good old fashioned communication is not totally lost. We just have to be intentional in doing it! Say “Hi” to a stranger, have a conversation in the doctors office, on the elevator, in line waiting for coffee or try this, pick up your phone and call someone instead of texting them!

Let’s go back to the “old time” ways

Colossians 4:5

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

Love is Patient and Kind

There seems to be a running theme with people today, It is impatience and intolerance. We don’t seem to be able to contain our anger or frustrations with one another and it’s affecting the lives of our families and friends greatly.

It’s funny though (not ha ha) how we tend to choose who we are patient with (who receives our full wrath) and who we choose to be tolerant with instead of extending  grace to everyone indiscriminately.  Sadly our tolerance is less with our spouses, children and family members and more with strangers 😞.

If we consistently conduct our lives in love, then we show the same love to everyone which our heavenly Father shows toward us daily.

Love is patience, kind, full of joy, showingself control…Galatians 5:22

Proverbs 19:11

Proverbs 22:4

Proverbs 29:11

Marriage is Give & Take

Marriage is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, don’t be selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half“, cause they got it going on in that department !!

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands (vision) way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse and yourself! Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

To Give or Not to Give

Does giving gifts have take away from the true meaning of Christmas? No, it does not. If we focus on the wonderful gift of salvation the Lord has given us (Isaiah 9:6), giving to others is a natural expression of that gratitude. The key is our focus. Is your focus on the gift, or on the ultimate gift-giver, our gracious Heavenly Father? “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights…” (James 1:17).

I was doing some Christmas shopping the other day and started to feel some kind of way about the serious stress I was seeing on the faces of other shoppers.  I listened to conversations and watched disputes take place all in the name of Christmas giving.

It was depressing, I felt a bit convicted about the whole thing.  Why do we try to do so much, stressing over pleasing people when the purpose is to give a thoughtful gift in the name of love and kindness.

The reason is I believe is that we are now doing way too much.  We want to impress others, we want to compete with others, and in the process we create more debt than we can afford.

Let’s try to remember the real reason for this season, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ selflessly coming into this world to save us from eternal suffering.

It’s pretty simple, show love in how you care. Give meaningful gifts, gift that supply a need not just a want, and not just at Christmas

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

Why is it so hard to be thoughtful, considerate, or kind to someone, anyone in spite of how we may feel in a particular moment, yet we would dare to expect that same individual to over look our flaws and failures in order to be thoughtful or kind to us.

It’s a matter of respect, plain and simple

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Luke 6:31