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Go on! Do something!

Do you recall all the effort you used to put into Valentines Day when you were dating or back in the early years of your marriage?

I challenge you to think again about how you used to get their attention romantically. Why not do that (Yes! that right there!) again.

Relationships grow apart when we don’t prioritize one another, when we lose interest in what makes our loved ones happy. Don’t allow that to happen in your relationship any longer.

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15 Seconds of Fame

In a time when “Random acts of kindness” seem to be strategically set up, recorded and publicized regularly on social media, and news outlets, we (Christ followers) must know and remember that Gods word says good deeds done in secret are really the ones that count.

Is what you do Gods work? Is it really from the heart? Or are you looking for your 15 seconds of fame?

Matthew 6:1

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

Hebrews 13:16

Do not neglect to do good, and to share what you have, for such sacrifices please God

No More Excuses

Change is tough for us, it is emotionally challenging. it is not what we are used to doing, what we are used to saying, or who we are used to being.  That’s why it’s so hard to change.

Now, It is said that in order to make change a habit, you must do whatever it is for at least 21 days consecutively. It is also said that if we make a change in one area of our lives, (yes, that), it can theoretically affect change in all areas of our lives.

If you know you want to be better, you want to behave better or you want to look better but you can’t quite seem to make it happen on your own, why not ask God to be your strength, or to be your voice of reason, and then you do your part and begin to make an effort and don’t stop trying! If you fail,

No more excuses! You can do it!

Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.

Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these other things shall be added”, (Righteous things, Godly blessings), nothing is too big, too small or too hard for God!  Just ask Him, He is able and He will change what you cannot change on your own.

Listen!!

When you consider all that  is going on in the world today,  consider how sin has brought us to this point.

When we struggle with overcoming sin in our own lives, we must remember that we have a helper.   It is really simple,  all we need do is ask God for help and this is the kicker, then obey Him!  He will help you if you sincerely desire His help and He knows! In my own experience, I have found that  The Holy Spirit will always guide me  in those moments when I am  considering doing wrong.

I was so serious about pleasing God,  that I asked Him to allow me to feel the disappointment He feels when I allow my selfish ways to take control instead of obeying His voice, and then I asked myself why it was so easy for me to willfully disobey Gods word if I truly loved Him, and if I believed that Christ suffered, blead, and died for me.

If you truly love Jesus,  pay attention to that “still small voice” (Jesu living in you) when He says to you, “Don’t do it” or “Stop  before it’s too late”.  That’s the voice of the Holy Spirit in you.

If our sin does not break our heart, we make a mockery of Christ’s supreme sacrifice, Psalm 51.17

Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

Why is it so hard to be thoughtful, considerate, or kind to someone, anyone in spite of how we may feel in a particular moment, yet we would dare to expect that same individual to over look our flaws and failures in order to be thoughtful or kind to us.

It’s a matter of respect, plain and simple

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Luke 6:31

 Forgive Me

In any relationship, it’s inevitable that we will make mistakes!  The thing is, to learn from those mistakes, never make the same mistake repeatedly, and don’t allow anyone to hold your mistake over your head.  Once The Lord forgives you, you are to move forward with thanksgiving, in humility and in wisdom with the intention of never committing that same transgression again.

Forgive others because God has forgiven you, forgive yourself and open yourself up to the opportunities that God has destined to come your way but they became delayed because of your disobedience.  True, you may still have to live with the consequences of your past mistakes……. But! you are never required by God to live with guilt, shame or regret.  Accept that your past mistakes may have caused the situation you are currently in but, quickly acknowledge the greater truth that your past mistakes which are now forgiven by God, do not need to impact the choices you will make for the rest of your life.

God is simply waiting for you to acknowledge your wrong……  Repent, confess it all to Him, and be blessed.

James 5:16 – Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Ephesians 4:32 – And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.