Tag Archive | happiness

The Good Old Days

It seems as though time is slipping away right before our very eyes. Are you making the most of your time? I believe we try to make time for who and what is important to us or so we think, but can you truly be present (in the moment) with yourcell phone, your iPad or tablet in your face, mindlessly scrolling the internet, through Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest or looking at sports videos and YouTube, Nope!

I remember a simpler time, back when my husband and I had so much contempt for the devices we are now literally “joined at the hip” with. We even talked back then about how “those darn mobile phones” would be the demise of society. The young people were using them in order not to have real interaction, they were a way out of having to deal with people. Now adults are doing the same thing!

We actually peaked into the future, didn’t we!

If this is going to change, we must now be intentional with putting our devices down, making eye contact, saying “Hi”. Your conversation could be the only real and hopefully (positive) interaction a person has today.

Here’s the thing, If you are older, you remember what life was like without a mobile phone, tablets, and all this technology. The world was a much friendlier place, people talked, there was very little internet activity at home (it was at work only) to rob us of hours of our precious time on earth.

Don’t fret! We can get it back! Good old fashioned communication is not totally lost. We just have to be intentional in doing it! Say “Hi” to a stranger, have a conversation in the doctors office, on the elevator, in line waiting for coffee or try this, pick up your phone and call someone instead of texting them!

Let’s go back to the “old time” ways

Colossians 4:5

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

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Child like faith

This morning I woke up with a scripture on my mind, I repeated it in my mind over and over then reached for my bible to read the memory verse of day, it was the same scripture of the day (John 10:10)

I know that God wants only the best for us (life more abundantly) but we don’t seem to really get that, we really may not quite understand how He is God, the Creator of everything or even how deeply He cares for us!

That brings me to such a sweet memory of our granddaughter Grace. Grace was such a surprise to us, all because my daughter had no plans to have another child. In spite of all that, her pregnancy with Grace was better than her first. That may be why it took her some time to come to grips with the fact that she was truly pregnant again, even though her belly was steadily growing! It took us all some time to get used to the idea we would have to love another little person as much as we loved our first, but of course we did.

The funny thing is that Grace was born seemingly unhappy! She cried and cried (no colic) just unhappy. My daughter ended up going back to the hospital due to complications after giving birth. I was left to take care of the two little ones alone because my son in law stayed with my daughter in the hospital. I usually have no problem calming babies but not that little new born. Grace seemed angry and inconsolable and she stayed that way for months. My husband was the only one that seemed to be able to calm her with his monotone humming, lol!

We found out later what some of her problem was, she couldn’t hear well! but once that was taken care of she was better not great but I will never forget it, when Grace was around the age of 3, I got a call from my daughter that Grace was crying uncontrollably, when asked why so sad Grace, her explanation to my daughter was mind boggling;

In Graces baby voice;

I “weally” miss God! I want to go back to heaven to be with Him. He is so nice and He played with me. I don’t want to stay, I just want to visit Him. (Mind blown)!!!

Although my faith is strong, in that moment it was strengthened even more. That baby seemed to remember and long for Heaven and God. She still says and does things that remind us of that experience. She closes her eyes and sings with her whole heart and just recently started praise dance at their church. My daughter sent me a video of the dance, When i asked Grace and her sister Hannah if they were nervous, Hannah said “I was” but Grace’s response was “I just dance for Jesus, Hannah! just act like He’s right there”!! Just dance for God. Child like faith!!

God is right there! He is love and He wants us to love Him with child like faith, to be obedient to His word, to trust Him and know that He wants nothing but the best for us! He wants to give us life more abundantly.

Matthew 18:2-4

And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

No Do Overs

As always when I talk to my best friend something comes out of our conversation which helps us both. We always seem to lift one another up that way. This time it was our roles as “Help meets” to our husbands and children and how we sometimes resist that calling because we are just tired. We either do too much for our families (spoil them) or we take on too much outside our households which causes imbalance.

In most cases God did not call us to those “other things” but He did call us to be wives, mothers, and nurturers. It’s not always easy, and yes we do allow life to overwhelm us with things which do not matter as much as our families.

I recently heard a report which said that most young mothers are so overwhelmed with motherhood, they have turned to drinking and taking drugs as a way to cope!

I attribute that to trying to have “It All”, careers social lives as well as the pressure that is “Social media perfect”. We all should know from our own experiences (at times) how long it takes to get that perfect shot, the smile just right, the backdrop just so. We also know that picture portrays a perfectly loving, happy marriage and family, when we know darn well we only smiled for the picture to be taken and went right back to not speaking or yelling at the kids!

You can not be perfect, “No not one” Take the pressure off yourself. Enjoy those babies, and enjoy this time in your life. It’s the only time you have. There are no “Do-overs” so make the best your “Right now”.

When life gets hard remember that you have a “Helper” The Holy Spirit living within you to help you and to strengthen you. Psalms 55:22

Watch out now!

Love, expectance, and tolerance, whether it be learned behavior, practiced or genetic, the struggle is real! It’s not always easy to be good, do good and to walk in line with Gods word!

We are directed to try with all our hearts to love and be at peace with one another! and that includes our spouses. He (the Lord) requires of us to love unconditionally, not “If they do, then I will”. If we say we love God, then we must love one another, PERIOD!!

Proverbs 6:16-19

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:

1. haughty eyes (thinks highly of ones self over others)

2. a lying tongue (not completely honest)

3. hands that shed innocent blood (murderer)

4. a heart that devises wicked plans (setting snares/planning wrong)

5. feet that make haste to run to evil (messy/ lovers of confusion)

6. a false witness who breathes out lies (under oath) who sow discord among family

A Recipe for Longevity

I thought this could really help those of you dating or thinking of marriage. These questions were on a morning show I watch and I wanted to share them with you;

*Know who you are, but realize you are ever changing and you need someone willing to evolve with you

*Are you a better person because of them (do they bring out the best in you)

*Are you a balanced couple (religion, children, interests, finance..,). Talk about your differences

*Can you have fun apart (if they only want to be with you and can’t seem to have a life aside from you that may be a red flag)

*Are you a parent or a partner (make sure that you are not getting involved with someone who needs you for unhealthy reasons)

*Do they have your back (are they supportive of you)

Communication is key in all relationships. Just some food for thought 🤔

It’s Time To Make A Change

Friendships are beautiful most of the time but there are some that can be unhealthy;

Have you ever been involved with someone who seems to always keep something going (troublemaker, liar, or even bullies)?

The Bible is our instruction on everything! including how we deal with people in every walk of life.  If someone is a troublemaker, a habitual liar or someone who looks down on others (thinks too highly of themselves), they may be your friend but you have not been able to influence them to behave better-then you should probably not deal with them regularly. The Bible warns that if you are not careful they will end up influencing you instead!

Proverbs 22:24-25 “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare”

Titus 3:10  “As for a person who stirs up division, after warning them once and then twice, have nothing more to do with them”

Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God”