Tag Archive | happiness

What!!!  Marriage is Trending

Well  “it’s about time”! It is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, Stop being selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half”, cause they got it going on in that department !!  

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse. Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

A Mothers Love Never Dies

A week ago today, I celebrated my 57th birthday.  My husband took off work to spend the day with me, which was a complete surprise since he never really takes off work!  We were just hanging out talking, riding along , enjoying conversation when in a moment when nothing was really on my mind, my moms face flashed before me, and a warmth came over me that I haven’t felt since the last hug she gave me, I  felt her and I heard her say “Happy birthday baby, I love you”.  My eyes welled up with tears and my heart, although it was happy to be with my “Boo” (husband), was overwhelmed with the love and the memory of my dear sweet mother and her the adoration I always felt from her.  You must understand that she’s been dead for 10 years, and I’ve longed to feel her, to know that she was okay, and I knew in that moment!   Just before that encounter I asked the Lord to let the rain which had clouded my heart stop because It was my special day (Everyone who knows me well knows that I am lover of the sun!)  Then the sweetest thing happened again, the sun shined on me, it literally came out, and I was so thankful again to know Gods love and to feel that “He is particularly fond of me” (The Shack movies). ☺️

I’ve learned in life that we will deal with loss, pain, and deep sadness, but no matter the pain or struggle, it makes it all the more bearable when we have hope, and joy in knowing there is someone who watches over us, who orders our steps simply because we love Him enough to be faithful, and to honor His sons sacrifice with our lives by living in obedience to His word.

I’m so sure that my experience with my mom on the celebration of my birthday was a gift that I had to share it with you in hopes of encouraging someone who’s feeling down because your mom is no longer with you.  I pray that you celebrate her this Mother’s Day with joyful memories, be happy for the time you were blessed to have her in your life.  God bless you

I felt her love and it was the best gift ever!!   

Psalm 147:3. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Psalm 103:13. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.

He can make things happen 

I sometimes find myself wondering if I’m on the right track spiritually.  Am I fulfilling my life purpose.  I know I love The Lord and I am trying to live my life according to His word, and then the Lord softly reassures me (through His word) that He is in control and He will orchestrate opportunity in my daily walk (work or leisure) to do His will in and through my life.  

This always seems to happen when I begin to question my purpose, so there’s no need to try and force anything, simply study Gods word, stay prayerful, and be kind.  The Lord gives us opportunity to share the love of Jesus, just listen for that urgent tug at your heart or a thought that won’t let you rest, then move or speak with love, and share your faith.

Give us this day all that we need and forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.  Matthew 6

Giving it all you got

My husband and I regularly  reflect on our lives together.  We certainly realize how differently our lives could have been if we had not met, fallen in love, gotten married, and stayed married.   It’s important to express to one another how much we appreciate each other for being supportive throughout our lives together with all of its crooks, and turns. 

The thing is,  life is largely what we make of it.   You have more control over your future than you realize. Trusting God, and living a life of obedience to His Word is the beginning of joy, peace, and happiness,  and success

God’s Word promises us so much, Her only asks for our obedience to His word.  

“If you abide in Me and My Word abides in you, you can ask whatever you will, and it shall be given unto you” (John 15:7).  

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.  (Jeremiah 29:11) 

Try it,  you might like it! 

My mom told me early in my marriage, “Don’t start anything with your husband that you don’t plan on doing for the rest of your lives together”.  Boy, was she right!   recently while pampering my husband, as I so often do, I remembered mama’s words, I smiled at my memory of her. I also remembered how great her and my dads relationship was when we were growing up (that’s where I learned).  

Recently my husband and I left home for church services at 7:30 am.  We went to brunch after two services, then we dropped by the house to change clothes and kept going because I wanted a couple of things.  We shopped a little, and just hung out and talked.  12 hours from the time we left home that morning,  we were on our way back home from a very full day.   Now you have to understand that my husband loves being at home and relaxing, and he hates to shop,  But!  He did it, and he was patient and generous with his time and $$.   Maybe he did it,  knowing what he wanted, I’m not sure, but because he was so generous with me, he got his nails done, and his face groomed and yes, I was happy to oblige.  
Quid pro quo, Tit for tat,  call it what you want, but I call it love and happiness done my way.  As my granddaughter says, “Try it, you might like it”.

In everything, do for others as you would have them do for you, Mattew 7:12

Submit to who? Why?

So I had a moment recently in which I was forced even more to remind myself to be submissive.

As I  have told you more than once, submissiveness is an ongoing process for all of us.  It is not always easy for me to conduct myself as an agreeable and humble wife, but the Holy spirit is always right there to remind me of my role as a wife because I ask Him to help me. 

I know, I know, but it is a process and if your heart is in it, and your goal is to please our God, then it really does get easier with time, prayer and God’s power to help you.

Colossians 3:16-19

16. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. 18. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19. Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

Okay, okay,  I’m done.  Fix your face and have a great day😒

Have You Changed Your Mind?

A change of feeling is a change of destiny. (Nevilles law of assumption). As we mourn the loss of one of the greatest boxing legends of all time (Mohamed Ali), I remembered as a child how when Mohamed Ali was interviewed before or after a fight, he would always say, “I am the greatest”, “I float like a butterfly, and sting like a bee”. He spoke that which he expected his life to be, and based on his boxing career, he succeeded just as he spoke and, as he expected. He was referred to as arrogant and conceited, but he WAS the greatest boxer in his day, because he spoke victory, never defeat over his own life and, most importantly he was about helping others.

It’s what we expect, that which we think about which expands in our lives. Change your thoughts, then you will change your world. Change your expectations, then your life can start to manifest that which you speak and believe. 

Proverbs 18:21. Death and life are in the power of the tongue

Proverbs 23:7 For as a man thinketh, so is he

John 10:10 “I have come that you may have life and have it more abundantly”

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.