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No Do Overs

As always when I talk to my best friend something comes out of our conversation which helps us both. We always seem to lift one another up that way. This time it was our roles as “Help meets” to our husbands and children and how we sometimes resist that calling because we are just tired. We either do too much for our families (spoil them) or we take on too much outside our households which causes imbalance.

In most cases God did not call us to those “other things” but He did call us to be wives, mothers, and nurturers. It’s not always easy, and yes we do allow life to overwhelm us with things which do not matter as much as our families.

I recently heard a report which said that most young mothers are so overwhelmed with motherhood, they have turned to drinking and taking drugs as a way to cope!

I attribute that to trying to have “It All”, careers social lives as well as the pressure that is “Social media perfect”. We all should know from our own experiences (at times) how long it takes to get that perfect shot, the smile just right, the backdrop just so. We also know that picture portrays a perfectly loving, happy marriage and family, when we know darn well we only smiled for the picture to be taken and went right back to not speaking or yelling at the kids!

You can not be perfect, “No not one” Take the pressure off yourself. Enjoy those babies, and enjoy this time in your life. It’s the only time you have. There are no “Do-overs” so make the best your “Right now”.

When life gets hard remember that you have a “Helper” The Holy Spirit living within you to help you and to strengthen you. Psalms 55:22

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Make Time

We make time for who (people) and what (activities) is important to us.

Try not to allow yourself to become so busy or overly exhausted that the very people who you say you love don’t feel it! All they know is you don’t seem to care as much as they care for you! They give their all, never to receive it back from you.

Communication is not just a quick peck on the cheek, a polite “Good morning” or a text message. It’s actually having a real conversation, making time for those you love, making eye contact, giving a real hug, simply showing genuine concern for someone else’s well being!

Make time! Think on it🤔

Watch out now!

Love, expectance, and tolerance, whether it be learned behavior, practiced or genetic, the struggle is real! It’s not always easy to be good, do good and to walk in line with Gods word!

We are directed to try with all our hearts to love and be at peace with one another! and that includes our spouses. He (the Lord) requires of us to love unconditionally, not “If they do, then I will”. If we say we love God, then we must love one another, PERIOD!!

Proverbs 6:16-19

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:

1. haughty eyes (thinks highly of ones self over others)

2. a lying tongue (not completely honest)

3. hands that shed innocent blood (murderer)

4. a heart that devises wicked plans (setting snares/planning wrong)

5. feet that make haste to run to evil (messy/ lovers of confusion)

6. a false witness who breathes out lies (under oath) who sow discord among family

A Recipe for Longevity

I thought this could really help those of you dating or thinking of marriage. These questions were on a morning show I watch and I wanted to share them with you;

*Know who you are, but realize you are ever changing and you need someone willing to evolve with you

*Are you a better person because of them (do they bring out the best in you)

*Are you a balanced couple (religion, children, interests, finance..,). Talk about your differences

*Can you have fun apart (if they only want to be with you and can’t seem to have a life aside from you that may be a red flag)

*Are you a parent or a partner (make sure that you are not getting involved with someone who needs you for unhealthy reasons)

*Do they have your back (are they supportive of you)

Communication is key in all relationships. Just some food for thought 🤔

It’s Time To Make A Change

Friendships are beautiful most of the time but there are some that can be unhealthy;

Have you ever been involved with someone who seems to always keep something going (troublemaker, liar, or even bullies)?

The Bible is our instruction on everything! including how we deal with people in every walk of life.  If someone is a troublemaker, a habitual liar or someone who looks down on others (thinks too highly of themselves), they may be your friend but you have not been able to influence them to behave better-then you should probably not deal with them regularly. The Bible warns that if you are not careful they will end up influencing you instead!

Proverbs 22:24-25 “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare”

Titus 3:10  “As for a person who stirs up division, after warning them once and then twice, have nothing more to do with them”

Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God”

Love is Patient and Kind

There seems to be a running theme with people today, It is impatience and intolerance. We don’t seem to be able to contain our anger or frustrations with one another and it’s affecting the lives of our families and friends greatly.

It’s funny though (not ha ha) how we tend to choose who we are patient with (who receives our full wrath) and who we choose to be tolerant with instead of extending  grace to everyone indiscriminately.  Sadly our tolerance is less with our spouses, children and family members and more with strangers 😞.

If we consistently conduct our lives in love, then we show the same love to everyone which our heavenly Father shows toward us daily.

Love is patience, kind, full of joy, showingself control…Galatians 5:22

Proverbs 19:11

Proverbs 22:4

Proverbs 29:11

Marriage is Give & Take

Marriage is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, don’t be selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half“, cause they got it going on in that department !!

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands (vision) way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse and yourself! Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5