Tag Archive | life

What!!!  Marriage is Trending

Well  “it’s about time”! It is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, Stop being selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half”, cause they got it going on in that department !!  

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse. Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

Can You Feel the Love ❤️

So much of the power to keep our relationships thriving is in our very own hands. It’s so important to keep talking, touching, kissing,  laughing, and sharing, and do it with your whole heart.  I write encouragement on my fridge weekly for my husband and myself.  That’s one of my ways to keep our relationship fresh.  Remember, we are going on  36 years of marriage!!

My most recent advice was, “Kiss me as if it were the last time!   There’s something wonderful that happens when my husband takes time to look at me and wrap his arms around me in a tender embrace, and really kiss me, not just a quick peck of the lips.   I feel the the love, and I don’t mind so much that he just left his clothes on the bathroom floor.
If you feel things are a little stale or a lot, you decide to do whatever it takes for you and your relationship to thrive.  It is that important!!

Love, Heartbreak, Love

Love can last a lifetime but sometimes it doesn’t 
Love your husband, love your wife, Learn not sweat the small stuff, like those things that get under your skin for no real good reason! Just love them while you have them with all your heart and with all your patience and understanding. Enjoy every moment with them, adore them and make sure you tell them how much they mean because everything can change in an instant. I sat with a church member and friend as her husband of only 7 months pass over into eternity. They are a young couple and James had only been sick a few weeks. My heart absolutely broke for her. On my ride home I thanked God for the time they had together and I asked Him to help her deal with the extreme pain that she is and must continue to endure.
We all believe our love is forever when we find our true love and I believe it can unless one of those lives is taken, we can be together and in love forever, it simply takes lots of love, honor, patience, kindness, and understanding but more than anything we can do, it takes a true and Unwavering faith in God to help us when times get tough.  

Please pray for Dionne and James’s family.  

Let It Breathe

I know I’ve said it before and I will continue saying it! “No relationship will last without good communication”. I have come to recognize the older my husband and I get, the more.we are changing. If we are still adjusting our behavior for one another after 35 years, you must understand, especially if you are just starting out, you’ve got to “dig in”, and be committed to putting the work into your relationship which  it takes to sustain, nurture and grow a loving relationship for years to come.

Do not assume anyone knows how you feel, talk about what annoys you, what troubles you as well as your likes and dislikes. Work through your differences, leave no room for misunderstandings.


Confession is good for the soul

I had a conversation with my daughter recently about a dream she had.   It was the same sort of dream I used to have when I was younger, about judgement day.    My dreams always caused me to evaluate my spiritual walk with a sense of urgency.   Was I on the right track? Am I doing all that I should be doing in this life for the Kingdom of God?   Had I asked God’s forgiveness?  Not just as a blanket statement (Lord forgive my sins) but specific sins, (the day I stole that…, when I lied about. .., the time I intentionally hurt him) ?

When we repent (tell God about our wrong doing),  it should be specific,  with the  intent of not repeating that sin again. 

What I have come to realize since those days is;  If I read Gods word, if I live His word and pray regularly (relationship),  I will be pleasing God.  But!! When I fall short (and I will), I immediately confess my short comings,(my sin), just as I would to one of my parents (when I got caught :))  I would say “I’m sorry”,  I would ask their forgiveness with the promise of not repeating that same mistake again because I didn’t want to be punished.

We must learn to live each day as if it were our last day on earth,  fore it very well could be and I want to go to Heaven when I’m done here. 

1 John 1:19
“If we confess our sin, He (God) is faithful and just to forgive our sin, and will  cleanse us from all unrighteousness”.  

Romans 12:2
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God”


Godly Example or What?

While listening to Christian radio, a guest pastor made a statement which we who call ourselves Christians should adhere to;   If we love God, We should strive to please Him, We should never bring shame to the Kingdom of God, or to Christianity (to be Christ like).  What kind of an example does the world see in you?  

Integrity is doing the right thing, for the right reason, even when you think no one is looking. 

Live your life as though you have an audience because you really do (Matthew 18:16). Someone may have chosen your life as their example for how they live but you may never be aware of it.  We as adults teach our children to be good and to do the right thing but, are we as adults, or as Christians?  The bible says that God is Omnipresent, (Proverbs 15:3) which means, He is everywhere at the same time. (Psalms 139:7-12). He sees and He hears everything at the same times, so we must live as though we know that He’s watching because, He really is!