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Go on! Do something!

Do you recall all the effort you used to put into Valentines Day when you were dating or back in the early years of your marriage?

I challenge you to think again about how you used to get their attention romantically. Why not do that (Yes! that right there!) again.

Relationships grow apart when we don’t prioritize one another, when we lose interest in what makes our loved ones happy. Don’t allow that to happen in your relationship any longer.

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No More Excuses

Change is tough for us, it is emotionally challenging. it is not what we are used to doing, what we are used to saying, or who we are used to being.  That’s why it’s so hard to change.

Now, It is said that in order to make change a habit, you must do whatever it is for at least 21 days consecutively. It is also said that if we make a change in one area of our lives, (yes, that), it can theoretically affect change in all areas of our lives.

If you know you want to be better, you want to behave better or you want to look better but you can’t quite seem to make it happen on your own, why not ask God to be your strength, or to be your voice of reason, and then you do your part and begin to make an effort and don’t stop trying! If you fail,

No more excuses! You can do it!

Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.

Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these other things shall be added”, (Righteous things, Godly blessings), nothing is too big, too small or too hard for God!  Just ask Him, He is able and He will change what you cannot change on your own.

“The Storms” of Life

You know when you feel as though everything seems to be going wrong in your life?  Well my husband and I realized the other night, just how much our family has had to endure.

Although the bible tells us to rejoice in troubles, in the natural that seems unrealistic or unachievable until you understand the power of God.  Part of the reason that God allows us to experience sorrows and trials in our lives, is so that we might depend on Him, draw closer to Him, and learn that He is the power which sustains us.  He will  provide for us all that we need at any time in our lives, especially during the trials of life.

All of Gods children go through storms (troubling times), but it is precisely during the “Going through” moments of any crisis, that Gods peace is more evident than ever before.

Just remember that you are “Going through”, not remaing in “The Storm”. 

This too shall pass. 2Corinthians 4:17-18

Romans 12:12  Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

Why aren’t you saying “Merry Christmas”?

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only son” (John 3:16).  That’s what Christmas is really all about. Christ gave His life to forgive the sins of this world then and for all time,  so why can’t shouldn’t you say “Merry Christmas”?

Stand for what you believe. Don’t allow society to dictate what you can and can not say, at the time of year we celebrate the birth of “Our risen Savior Jesus Christ”. There would be no Christmas, If not for Christ!

For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6)

Romans 12:2 (KJV)
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

Happily Ever After?

There is something lacking in today’s society, Patience! We want everything right now. We want it exactly the way we want it. If it’s not working the way we think it ought to, it is so easily discarded and we’re on to the next thing, relationship, friend, job etc,.

Does this phrase sound familiar at all?, “Anything worth having is worth fighting or working for”.

My “Oh so practical” husband says concerning our relationship; “I’d rather have 80% of the good in you than 80% of the worse. I can deal with 20% of anything if the rest is working out pretty well for me”

Why do we make relationships so hard? If there is more good than, not so good, then work on the “not so good” part till it’s better. The point I’m trying to make is, we all have flaws, issues and baggage from previous relationships, but it’s so much easier to see someone else’s flaws than it is to see our own. That’s why In any relationship, self evaluation is critical.

Ask yourself some vital questions such as, what would happen if I became …., what could our marriage not withstand….., what could make him/her feel differently about me. Talk regularly about things like this so that when an issue arises in your relationship, it won’t be blown out of proportion because you have communicated therefore you are better able to understand one another enough to get through them when they arise.

Do you realize that we are less likely to offend a good friend than we are our spouse or loved one. Why? Because we talk with our friends all the time, so why not extend that same courtesy to the person you vowed to love, honor and cherish or that person you are in a committed relationship with?

Live peaceably with all people, that means our spouses and loved ones too! (Romans 12:14-18)

Happy Wife, Happy Life?

If you were to ask my husband about how his marriage works so well, he would tell you that he keeps me happy. It’s true! and in return I do what it takes to keep him happy.

There are many components to having a good relationship, one is a continuous cycle of give and take, and it shouldn’t be conditional (I’ll do for you, if you do for me) nor should it be based on whether you are getting all you want out of the relationship all of the time. Love is supposed to be unconditional. “Love one another as I have loved you”

Everyone has a “Love language” I read a book titled, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman. I learned that my husbands love language was “Acts of Service”. No, i’m not his servant but, I do know that nothing makes him happier than a good meal or me pampering him, so I cook for him and I pamper him (it gets old sometimes) but he deserves all I do for him and more because he is operating as the husband God called him to be. He is my protector, my provider, my spiritual covering, and my friend.

Maybe you’ve gotten so comfortable or complacent in your relationship that it doesn’t seem so important to do those special little things anymore. Well, I’m here to tell you, It still Is! It takes even more effort the longer you’re together in order for your relationship to stay alive and thriving.

Everyone loves to be appreciated, whether it’s spoken or physically shown, so reciprocate, give back, counter, return, however you say it. The Bible puts it like this; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Luke 6:31). Don’t look at it as a chore, see it as an investment in your happiness and your future.

Ladies and gentleman, if you have a wonderful spouse or mate, make sure they know how you feel. Show them, and tell them because love is truly an action word.

Husbands, 1 Peter 3:7 is a powerful scripture concerning your wife, and your prayers. It talks about how important a peaceful existence with your wife is. Take a look and see.