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Have You Changed Your Mind?

 I remember as a child how when Mohamed Ali was interviewed before or after a fight, he would always say, “I am the greatest”, “I float like a butterfly, and sting like a bee”. He spoke that which he expected his life to be, and based on his boxing career, he succeeded just as he spoke and, as he expected. He was referred to as arrogant and conceited, but he WAS the greatest boxer in his day, because he spoke victory, never defeat over his own life and, most importantly he was about helping others.

It’s what we expect, that which we think about which expands in our lives. Change your thoughts, then you will change your world. Change your expectations, then your life can start to manifest that which you speak and believe. 

Proverbs 18:21. Death and life are in the power of the tongue

Proverbs 23:7 For as a man thinketh, so is he

John 10:10 “I have come that you may have life and have it more abundantly”

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

What!!!  Marriage is Trending

Well  “it’s about time”! It is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, Stop being selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half”, cause they got it going on in that department !!  

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse. Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God ​— ​who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly ​— ​and it will be given to him. —James 1:5

Let it All Hang Out

Times are so very different now than when my husband and I were dating, it makes me a little sad.   People hide behind lies or surface conversations, and you never seem to get below thier surface.  You meet online,  you text instead of talk.  Communication is vital, and face to face conversations allow you to see, instead of assume someone’s emotion from a txt msg.  Phone calls allow you to hear emotion as well.  Don’t allow someone who only wants to text, to get close to you. Their either not really serious or they have something to hide.

For your own good, take time to get to really know a person before you allow yourself to fall for someone you may think you know.    Don’t be afraid to ask questions you need answers to for fear of upsetting someone, that’s if you are dating for the purpose of finding a life long mate (marriage).  Involve God in your relationship, ask Him to show you all things that may be hidden, and then “watch as well as pray”.   As for yourself, “Let it all hang out”,  all of who you are, and see if they can handle the real you, especially if you know you have unresolved issues, issues that may have even ruined a promising relationship in the past (some things come only by prayer and fasting).  

What I am saying is, don’t be a deceiver and don’t allow yourself to be deceived.  The truth is always better than a lie.  So go ahead, and let them get to know who you really are!   And ask God to show you who they really are as well, after all,  the person meant for you can handle almost everything about you until,  even if a change ever takes place.  They could even be the reason you finally begin to want to work things out within yourself!

Proverbs 12:22 ESV   Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.
Proverbs 10:9 ESV  Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.

Submit to who? Why?

So I had a moment recently in which I was forced even more to remind myself to be submissive.

As I  have told you more than once, submissiveness is an ongoing process for all of us.  It is not always easy for me to conduct myself as an agreeable and humble wife, but the Holy spirit is always right there to remind me of my role as a wife because I ask Him to help me. 

I know, I know, but it is a process and if your heart is in it, and your goal is to please our God, then it really does get easier with time, prayer and God’s power to help you.

Colossians 3:16-19

16. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. 18. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19. Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

Okay, okay,  I’m done.  Fix your face and have a great day😒

One word

PRAY!

As I watch the beginning of political conferences,   political debates, and the news concerning the killing of innocent people,   I understand why so many seem to be losing hope concerning the state of our nation and yes,  even our world.  

I’ve come to encourage you, don’t get down about what’s going on in our nation, and in politics right now.  Whatever you do, just don’t be a part of the spreading of the hate.  


Gods word declares that we (Christ followers) are to be “peace keepers”.   So even though you may not understand,  trust God and turn everything over to Him in prayer.  Your pain, your heart break,  your hurt,  even your hate,  and your inability to understand just how all this could be happening in the 21st century etc.


GOD IS SOVEREIGN!!  
There is absolutely nothing that happens in the universe that is outside of God’s influence and authority. As King of kings and Lord of lords, God has no limitations. 


2 Chronicles 7:14

If My people which are called My name will humble themselves,  pray, seek My face and turn from their wicked ways,  then will I hear from Heaven.  I will forgive their sins and I will heal their land.

Build your man up

No man appreciates constant criticism.   We are created in the image of God, (Genesis), and our God desires our  Praise!  Praise for being our Heavenly father, the creator of the universe.   Praise for giving us Jesus Christ.

Now,  If we are made as He is,  it stands to reason that we too love to be praised for what we do,  just as our Creator does!!

Ladies,  just as we appreciate being told we look nice,  we are good mother’s, we are good wives and so on, we should be praising the men in our lives for what they do well, especially if they don’t  help out as much as we would like.  You know,  those things like helping with housework, dinner, and the kids.   Tell them how they make you feel protected and cared for.  Don’t forget to ell them how handsome they are.  In other words, tell them they are “The best thing since sliced bread”, as my mother used to say.    Stroke that ego,  brag on them,  build them up,  don’t tear them down. 

Now to those of you who doubt this could change anything, think about how you feel when you are complemented at work for a job well done, or when you are complemented in general.  If it motivates you,  it could motivate him to do better,  to do more,  but you will never know unless you give it a try, and not just once or twice but be persistent and consistent for a couple of weeks.  I think you will be surprised, at least I pray that you will.

Father’s day is tomorrow.  Make his day special.

   

It could have been me

As I watched the news yesterday,  I saw a mother who did not know where her son was after the mass shooting in Orlando Florida at a gay night club.   My heart melted for her as she explained how she was not getting help finding her son.   She described him in detail as her tears flowed. Her love for her son was so evident, and her pain penetrated my soul.

I immediately put myself in her place and knew that even if my son or daughter decided to live an alternative lifestyle  (gay), I would still love them deeply because as their mother, I gave birth to them, they lived in my body for 9 months, and  I always have their best interest in mind.

Pray for the mothers and the families of those who died as well as those who were injured. 

We can not stand in judgment,  we simply must love and should pray for those who are hurting.   God will be the judge.   We are commanded to love, so let’s do just that.

Matthew 7:1-3.
Judge not, that you be not judged

John 13:34
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.