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Check Yourself!

In order to get along with others, we must sometimes be willing to accept constructive Criticisms. Have you heard this saying; “If people in your life who don’t know each other say the same thing about you, then it might be true”. If this is you, try not to become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest with yourself in the process.

In my house we say “Check yourself”. So when you realize an unflattering truth about yourself, don’t get down about it, instead ask God to help you to change it. I say “Ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change and we may always seem to fall short, and fall back into those old ways or habits, and they are probably things we don’t even like about ourselves.

Remember, if it were simple, we wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways or bad habits. The change will be for our own good as well as for the good of those who love us and those who are forced to deal with us each and everyday.

Romans 12:17
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.


 Forgive Me

In any relationship, it’s inevitable that we will make mistakes!  The thing is, to learn from those mistakes, never make the same mistake repeatedly, and don’t allow anyone to hold your mistake over your head.  Once The Lord forgives you, you are to move forward with thanksgiving, in humility and in wisdom with the intention of never committing that same transgression again.

Forgive others because God has forgiven you, forgive yourself and open yourself up to the opportunities that God has destined to come your way but they became delayed because of your disobedience.  True, you may still have to live with the consequences of your past mistakes……. But! you are never required by God to live with guilt, shame or regret.  Accept that your past mistakes may have caused the situation you are currently in but, quickly acknowledge the greater truth that your past mistakes which are now forgiven by God, do not need to impact the choices you will make for the rest of your life.

God is simply waiting for you to acknowledge your wrong……  Repent, confess it all to Him, and be blessed.

James 5:16 – Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Ephesians 4:32 – And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

It’s a marriage not a competition 

When People of faith get married, the Bible says “we become one body” in the site of God.  Being “One” means, We win together or We lose together!  Nothing is just about us as individuals any longer.  

Let’s learn to work together, save together, cook together,  clean the house together, conversate together, live, love and laugh together, and even cry together.  That’s what growing together is!  It’s not how much more or less than you, “I can do”.  Do unto others as we would have them do unto us” Luke 6:31.  We don’t hold back or hold out on ourselves, do we! We do the best we can for us, so if we are truly “One”, act like it.  Selfishness begets selfishness.

Mark 12:31,  “Love your neighbor (that includes your spouse) as yourself.   For there is no greater commandment”.

What’s Your Story ?

“Every decision that you make becomes a permanent part of the story of your life”. What story do you want your life to tell. This is so true but, we don’t give much thought to much anything anymore, we just do whatever seems to be right to or for us in the moment, not praying about it nor do we think that it will be a permanent part of our life story.

We are not perfect creatures, we will make mistakes.. God tells us, if we would only seek Him in our decision making moments, our story would have a much happier ending.. He also tells us to, “Lean not to our own understanding, but in all our ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct our paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Husbands and wives must work together to agree on what is best for your individual family, if your relationship is going to work as it should for you. Your situation is never the same as anyone elses, so “Do you” to the best of your ability.

Give Him your all, God can and He will

It’s the Holidays, and so many of us are dealing with self induced problems. So often we can’t find our way out of situations we’ve gotten ourselves into. In the midst of those problems, we’ve all probably said, “I don’t know what else I can do”. Well, Gods Word says, “Apart from Me, you can do nothing” (John 15:5). Just as a parent desires to keep their child from life’s pitfalls, hurts and pains, our Heavenly Father desires the same for us. We are His workmanship, created in His image. Why not allow the Creator to work out or to work on that situation that seems beyond your control. Just as any parent does, God simply wants your faithfulness and your obedience.

His Word says, “If you remain in Me, and My Word remains in you, you can ask whatever you wish and it shall be done for you” (John 15:7) NIV.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

Forget about It! (In my New ork accent) lol!

Just in case you need just a little more on forgiveness, here’s a post from last year.  Now, I think I can move on!

Okay! When my husband and I have a disagreement, and we do! He often must remind me to, “leave the past in the past” or “let’s not go backwards”.   I believe it’s only because he would rather we just forget about it ; 0) but, he’s right, and I’m still growing.   If we are to forgive from the heart, we MUST NOT keep reliving the mistakes of the past. We don’t forget! We must simply choose to move past it. Don’t hold onto the hurt someone caused you, the disappointments or the failures that happened as are silt of it.  God forgives us everyday for our trespasses against Him (Matthew 6:9-13), and we must, as His children, extend the same forgiveness to others.
Make your peace with it.


Your in this thing together, Aren’t you?

My husband would rather a disagreement just “go away” and we move on, but me, I have to get to the bottom of it. I’m the peacekeeper, the mediator, the talker. I have to find the why, and the how it happened in hopes that the same issue doesn’t arise again.

We must learn to handle disagreements wisely. We must talk things through to better understand one another as well as how to find a resolution. Some of the best advice I can give is to be okay not being right all the time, no one is! Be a better listener, especially when your partner is speaking. Actually listen, and don’t be preoccupied with what your response is going to be or what is being said that you might not agree with. Most of all, be compassionate and respectful towards one another because we all make mistakes.

“Love is patient, love is kind” (1 Corrinthians 13:4-8)