It is said that some things get better with age (a good wine, a well aged steak etc), but I add, they only get better with proper care, and maintenance. I’m 57 now but even as a young wife, the one thing I vowed would never be okay in my marriage was for us to lose our passion (not love) for one another, and I work very hard at making sure we stay connected. My husband has his way as well, he has always been active in making sure I’m happy and laughing. He is a “Joker”.
It really helps that I had great examples of a healthy relationship, with love, and respect from my parents., Yes! your children are watching and learning how to love and relate from your example.
I love to dance but my husband doesn’t like to so much (in public), so sometimes when he’s feeling it, he puts on a slow song and reaches for me, and I melt right into his arms. Yesssssss! 😍
I challenge you, think about how you used to get your spouses attention romantically. Why not start doing that (Yes! That!) again. A relationship grows old, stale, and stagnant when proper care is not taken to maintain, and to keep it fresh and vibrant.
When People of faith get married, the Bible says “we become one body” in the site of God. Being “One” means, We win together or We lose together! Nothing is just about us as individuals any longer.
Let’s learn to work together, save together, cook together, clean the house together, conversate together, live, love and laugh together, and even cry together. That’s what growing together is! It’s not how much more or less than you, “I can do”. Do unto others as we would have them do unto us” Luke 6:31. We don’t hold back or hold out on ourselves, do we! We do the best we can for us, so if we are truly “One”, act like it. Selfishness begets selfishness.
Mark 12:31, “Love your neighbor (that includes your spouse) as yourself. For there is no greater commandment”.
So much of the power to keep our relationships thriving is in our very own hands. It’s so important to keep talking, touching, kissing, laughing, and sharing, and do it with your whole heart. I write encouragement on my fridge weekly for my husband and myself. That’s one of my ways to keep our relationship fresh. Remember, we are going on 36 years of marriage!!
My most recent advice was, “Kiss me as if it were the last time! There’s something wonderful that happens when my husband takes time to look at me and wrap his arms around me in a tender embrace, and really kiss me, not just a quick peck of the lips. I feel the the love, and I don’t mind so much that he just left his clothes on the bathroom floor.
If you feel things are a little stale or a lot, you decide to do whatever it takes for you and your relationship to thrive. It is that important!!
There’s nothing better than a good laugh between you, and the one you love. I’ve always said that my husband’s sense of humor is one of the things which has kept us in love and together for all these years. He’s cute, and he’s a really funny guy, and yes, I’m a little bias (Smiling) .
If you are fortunate enough to have a loving, genuine, and honest person in your life, practice focusing on all of the positive they bring to your relationship, and less on the little annoying things they do. Look at it this way; If they merely annoy you every now and then, you should be capable of dealing with those annoying things a little better. We all must learn to be more tolerant of people in general, particularly if we love or, we are in love with them.
The “jokers” are easy to find in life, but the kings and queens are few and far between. Cherish them for the gifts they are.
“Hatred stirs up conflict but love covers a multitude of sin (wrong doing)” Proverbs 10:12
After any man and a woman have been together for a while, it should be expected that things become a little less romantic. We naturally get comfortable with one another and honestly, life just happens. Don’t allow the rigors of life to cause stagnation in your relationship. Take time to reconnect with the person you love and make opportunity to fall in love over and over again. One thing that has helped my now 35 year marriage has been to implement “Date night”. Yes, I’ve heard it all before, “that’s for old people” or “that is so lame” but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. It doesn’t have to be an expensive night out, but if you have small children it does call for a babysitter. Go out or do simple things like cooking a romantic meal and get a movie to watch cuddled up together with a glass of wine. Take a trip down memory lane together, look at old pics, laugh together. Talk about things that happened when you were dating, things you find interesting, or funny. Now remember! The most sensual part of your body is your lips, so use them, kiss! No, I mean really kiss like you used to, and let it take you there, Yes! There!
Now, you can go back to life as normal until the next date night. Oh, don’t forget to make an appointment for your next rendezvous before date night is over, and make it a priority.
Marriage is a never ending work in progress that most couples don’t live to master, although continued effort is required. I believe it is pleasing to The Lord most of all, so keep working at it.
Proverbs 31:10, 1 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 4:31-32
I’m so grateful to God that even as a young woman attempting to live in obedience to Gods word, I was able to look past what I thought was “my type“, and what I wanted in a “boyfriend”, in order to see who God had for me. When I met my husband, through Christ I was able to see the good in him, the kindness, the gentleness, and the love in his heart.
I can not imagine life without the love he has for me and the love and support he shows our children. It would have been tragic to know, I had given up on such a good man, and even more tragic to know that someone else now had what was meant for me, and that I willingly let him slip right through my fingers.
Ask God to open your eyes so that you may discover what or who He has for you.
1 Samuel 16:7 “The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart”.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Happiness is a gift from God.
Today I celebrate 33 years of marriage, living and growing with my best friend of more than 36 years. I am so thankful to God for the gift a wonderful man, one who loves Him and who loves and respects me. I pray for many more years with him, good health and our right minds (ask and he shall receive). I want to keep laughing at his lame jokes, sharing secrets with him and always know and experience the love of our wonderful children, grandchildren and family until the end of (our) time together.
Keep God first in all that you do, and keep loving and respecting one another. It works!
Matthew 6:33King James Version (KJV)
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.