So much of the power to keep our relationships thriving is in our very own hands. It’s so important to keep talking, touching, kissing, laughing, and sharing, and do it with your whole heart. I write encouragement on my fridge weekly for my husband and myself. That’s one of my ways to keep our relationship fresh. Remember, we are going on 36 years of marriage!!
My most recent advice was, “Kiss me as if it were the last time! There’s something wonderful that happens when my husband takes time to look at me and wrap his arms around me in a tender embrace, and really kiss me, not just a quick peck of the lips. I feel the the love, and I don’t mind so much that he just left his clothes on the bathroom floor.
If you feel things are a little stale or a lot, you decide to do whatever it takes for you and your relationship to thrive. It is that important!!
After any man and a woman have been together for a while, it should be expected that things become a little less romantic. We naturally get comfortable with one another and honestly, life just happens. Don’t allow the rigors of life to cause stagnation in your relationship. Take time to reconnect with the person you love and make opportunity to fall in love over and over again. One thing that has helped my now 35 year marriage has been to implement “Date night”. Yes, I’ve heard it all before, “that’s for old people” or “that is so lame” but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. It doesn’t have to be an expensive night out, but if you have small children it does call for a babysitter. Go out or do simple things like cooking a romantic meal and get a movie to watch cuddled up together with a glass of wine. Take a trip down memory lane together, look at old pics, laugh together. Talk about things that happened when you were dating, things you find interesting, or funny. Now remember! The most sensual part of your body is your lips, so use them, kiss! No, I mean really kiss like you used to, and let it take you there, Yes! There!
Now, you can go back to life as normal until the next date night. Oh, don’t forget to make an appointment for your next rendezvous before date night is over, and make it a priority.
Marriage is a never ending work in progress that most couples don’t live to master, although continued effort is required. I believe it is pleasing to The Lord most of all, so keep working at it.
Proverbs 31:10, 1 Peter 3:1-7 and Ephesians 4:31-32