Love is “Mutual submission” Yes guys! God’s words say “Wives, submit yourself unto your own husband” Ephesians 5:22-23, and it also says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her” Ephesians 5:25. He did everything for the church, He supported it, He taught it, He loved it unconditionally, and ultimately He gave His life for it (her). His love was never conditional (if you do for me, I’ll do for you). So in order to have a successful marriage or even a successful relationship, you must put your loved ones needs and sometimes their wants above your own. The problem with that is, we only want to do, if we are receiving something in return, but that’s not what God’s Word says. He says “Love one another as I have loved you”, John 13:34-35. Just think about it like this; If you truly want to please God, you will show love, and in return He will bless you to have the ability to do more than you could ever do on your own. The problem may be that you stopped valuing oneanothers feelings or oneanothers interests, and started to be selfish but that happens when you get comfortable in a relationship. We all tend to do that.
Don’t lose heart if it doesn’t work right away. It took time to get in the dysfuctional state you may find yourself in. You can get it back just remember, “Practice makes perfect” and “Anything worth having is worth fighting for”. Start with baby steps, (small things) like back when you used to give real thought to what would make them happy, what would make them smile loving in your direction. Remember how that brought you so much satisfaction, in more ways than one ;0). So start now and eventually, you will get back to being “In love”, and satisfied with your relationship.
“Do what it took to get them, if you want to keep them”.