So much of the power to keep our relationships thriving is in our very own hands. It’s so important to keep talking, touching, kissing, laughing, and sharing, and do it with your whole heart. I write encouragement on my fridge weekly for my husband and myself. That’s one of my ways to keep our relationship fresh. Remember, we are going on 36 years of marriage!!
My most recent advice was, “Kiss me as if it were the last time! There’s something wonderful that happens when my husband takes time to look at me and wrap his arms around me in a tender embrace, and really kiss me, not just a quick peck of the lips. I feel the the love, and I don’t mind so much that he just left his clothes on the bathroom floor.
If you feel things are a little stale or a lot, you decide to do whatever it takes for you and your relationship to thrive. It is that important!!
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only son” (John 3:16). That’s what Christmas is really all about. Christ gave His life to forgive the sins of this world then and for all time, so why can’t shouldn’t you say “Merry Christmas”?
Stand for what you believe. Don’t allow society to dictate what you can and can not say at the time of year we celebrate the birth of “our risen Savior Jesus Christ”. There would be no Christmas, If not for Christ!
For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6)
Romans 12:2 (KJV)
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
I was on my way to the grocery store listening to one of my favorite radio personalities was on. He made a profound statement in my opinion; “You always have other options”. He was referring to relationships where a person is contemplating divorce. He said “If it’s not as serious as infidelity, you should be asking yourself a certain type of question before giving up on a marriage”, Did they respond better to you after a well deserved vacation, How do they react to you being supportive instead of nagging and complaining, or telling them what they have not done.
His point was similar to the one I wrote about some time ago, find your spouses “Love language”. That thing that makes them forget that they are over worked and under appreciated. It could be as simple as you doing the housework for them every now and then. It could be you cooking a meal and giving them a break or you telling them that they are great at what they do. It could be as simple as you helping with the children more consistently. They might only need to hear that you love them and you are still attracted to them (we all get insecure, especially us women after children).
Just take a moment and think back to how you used to go out of your way to be thoughtful, how you did anything to see them smile, and you didn’t mind looking like a plum fool just to hear them laugh uncontrollably at you. Well, those same things it took to get them, are the same things that will keep them and will cause them to want to grow old with you.
I think we sometimes forget, or we just can’t see past the here and now, but after the honeymoon, marriage is not going to always be great or full of romance and laughter. It becomes work, but it can still be fun in the process of growing and so rewarding when we work toward building a future together (it’s called growing pains for a reason). It’s up to us to find, to make and to maintain a balance. Simply put, learn to speak their love language (it feels good and it pays huge dividends).
No matter what, I can truly say that my husband has always had my best interest in mind and at heart. He makes me laugh when he knows I’m upset, just to break the ice. He says “I’m sorry” when he knows he did nothing to be sorry for in order to resolve an issue. I do the same thing, it just seems as though when one of us is not willing, the other is, (the power of prayer). We each simply think of how the other person feels more often than not.
“Invest in what makes them happy” Don’t dwell so much on what you’re not getting. Remember when, how they felt was more important than your feelings, your likes or dislikes. You made them a priority, you did what they wanted because you loved to make them happy, and their smile was reward enough.
Get back to doing what you did to get them, in order to keep them (old saying)😏
There will come times in our life when The Lord will take us out of our comfort zone. You know, those things we do without giving it a moments thought or put any real effort into doing. In my experience, when God desires “a thing” in your life, you begin to notice that you seem to keep being put into a certain type of position or situation. That’s what has always happened to me and my husband.
When it starts to happen, you tend to want to inject your own feelings into the equations such as, I’m not qualified for this, I’m not comfortable with this or I need to be better equipped to do this. I know how uncomfortable it can be to talk to people who you don’t really know or who you may not really be comfortable talking to. This blog came to be because of the calling on my husband and my life together. I felt it was our responsibility to make ourselves comfortable, capable and equipped, to simply be a listening ear. God entrusted us to share what works in our marriage, and how us purposefully involving God in every situation was and is the key to working through any issue, as well as us being transparent about the issues that we’ve worked through and how we worked through them because there is no perfect relationship and there will never be but we sure can be happy together with Gods help.
Soooooo, it’s not about you or your ability to do anything! It’s all about God, who trusts you to have His heart, to show His love, to be what He has called you to do and to be for those who He sends into your life. “Love is patient, love is kind”
But the fruit of the Spirit (of God) is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Mothers day is this Sunday. Don’t forget to honor your mother! When my mom was alive, I loved showering her with gifts and love on her special days. Mothers Day and her birthday were very special times. She meant the world to me, and every Mother’s Day it hurts just a little that I don’t have her physical presence anymore, that I don’t get to spoil her, and that I don’t get to see her light up when she opens her gifts. My joy came from seeing her smile, from hearing her laugh, and oh how infectious her laugh was! She had a way of making anyone feel special and very loved.
Listen! Even if you don’t have the best relationship with your mom, she gave you life and she deserves honor for that alone. Moms are going to be who they are, just as you are who you are, and no one can change you, right! The bible tells us that life is a vapor, (a breath) which today is and tomorrow is gone. It also tells us to, “Honor your father and mother (first commandment with a promise from God), that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth” (Ephesians 6:3). Take each and every opportunity that God gives you, to make your mom feel special. Tell her that you love her, hug her as often as you can, kiss her, laugh with her, enjoy what makes her special to you. Take it from me, it will mean so much to you, when all you have left of her is a beautiful memory.
As selfish as I can be at times, I have come to realize that my unselfish actions (things I do for him) sometimes (not always) bring me so much more joy than if I only did what makes me happy or content.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; Andy Stanley