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The Good Old Days

It seems as though time is slipping away right before our very eyes. Are you making the most of your time? I believe we try to make time for who and what is important to us or so we think, but can you truly be present (in the moment) with yourcell phone, your iPad or tablet in your face, mindlessly scrolling the internet, through Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest or looking at sports videos and YouTube, Nope!

I remember a simpler time, back when my husband and I had so much contempt for the devices we are now literally “joined at the hip” with. We even talked back then about how “those darn mobile phones” would be the demise of society. The young people were using them in order not to have real interaction, they were a way out of having to deal with people. Now adults are doing the same thing!

We actually peaked into the future, didn’t we!

If this is going to change, we must now be intentional with putting our devices down, making eye contact, saying “Hi”. Your conversation could be the only real and hopefully (positive) interaction a person has today.

Here’s the thing, If you are older, you remember what life was like without a mobile phone, tablets, and all this technology. The world was a much friendlier place, people talked, there was very little internet activity at home (it was at work only) to rob us of hours of our precious time on earth.

Don’t fret! We can get it back! Good old fashioned communication is not totally lost. We just have to be intentional in doing it! Say “Hi” to a stranger, have a conversation in the doctors office, on the elevator, in line waiting for coffee or try this, pick up your phone and call someone instead of texting them!

Let’s go back to the “old time” ways

Colossians 4:5

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

Can We Talk?

During a discussion with my husband concerning men and women, and some common expectations they may have of one another in relationships, I took issue with his view on the subject. Well, he quickly rebutted by pointing out something he says I’ve always done, (raise my voice to establish my point) as I was doing at that very moment! I call it being passionate about what I believe in. I caught myself, and I admitted he was right! I quickly lowered my voice and un-stretched my eyes ;0). He laughed as I proceeded to make my point in a whisper.

Proverbs 15:1
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (NIV)

It’s not always easy to accept criticisms from those we love, but being willing to talk about it and a willingness to try to change negative behavior, makes for a healthier and happier relationship. If someone really loves you, they will try to make you happy, even if it makes them a little uncomfortable. My husband is and has always been that kind of man and I love him for that.

The bible says for us to “Strive to live peaceably with one another if at all possible” (Hebrews 12:14). That includes our spouses.

1 Corinthians 13:7 (ESV)
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”.

James 4:1-2
Submit Yourselves to God
“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God.” (NIV)

Ephesians 4:26
“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,” (NIV)

Proverbs 17:14
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”(NIV)

Ephesians 4:32
“Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Should Old Aquaintaince Be Forgot

A New Year is right around the corner, and we need to change the way we think about things and people.

People these days are a number of things, some are too tired to be what you need them to be. They are too busy making a living and taking care of their families needs, some are oblivious of others and not always in a negative way, they are just doing them! Don’t take it personally. It’s probably not even about you, it is simply, “them doing them“, their family thing.

Try not to be hurt, offended or angered by it. “It is, what it is”.

But! If you are fortunate enough to have a true friend, cherish them. True friends are rare, you don’t have to see them all the time or talk to them regularly, but, when you see one another or finally talk, it seems as though you never missed a beat, you pick right up where you left off. You know, that person who you can say anything to, who you laugh like crazy with, and after a conversation, you see things clearly, and you are full of confidence, and joy.

Thank God for that friend!

Proverbs 27:9 ESV
“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel”

Luke 6:31 ESV
And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

Will ya just pick up the phone!

Single folks are on my mind lately!

When my husband and I were dating, way back when! There was no email and certainly no cell phones for texting. We talked on the phone for hours at a time. We went on dates, we spent lots of time together. We were aware if the other person was happy, sad, hurt or offended because we could hear it in each other’s voice or see it in one another’s face.

In this day of too much technology, the new way of dating for some, is full-out conversations taking place via texting, instant messaging, Facebook and Instagram. The problem is, if you can’t hear the sound of a person’s voice, things can be misunderstood or taken out of context.

This behavior must change if we as people (human beings) are to maintain the ability to simply talk or hold a conversation with one another. I’ve had this issue with friends and family. I have had to pick up the phone and ask if there was a problem because I wasn’t understanding a text message. If I were you and I was in a relationship, I would demand phone calls or face time if it is possible, instead of constant text messages. It will take you so much longer to get to know a person if all you do is text or Instagram. You may never really get to know them (maybe that’s what they would like).

Technology, although meant to better society, is crippling us. We don’t memorize anything because we have it at our finger tips, especially phone numbers, we don’t add, multiply or subtract quickly, and we are quickly losing the ability to communicate effectively.

Care enough to pick up the phone and talk to those who you say, you care about. Your voice is all it takes sometimes to make someone’s day. Stop avoiding having conversations. If you have a problem, be adult enough to speak face to face or at least by phone.

Please, don’t share so much on social media. No one needs to know your every personal thought or feelings concerning anything! Be in love, be angry or even indifferent but tell the person involved, not the world!

He will, if you ask Him

It’s funny how God works with us at times. I recognize His hand in my life at moments when I would rather not, because I’m angry or upset. You know how you just want to be you and say what you want to say, regardless of what you realize might be right at the time, or dare I say, Godly!

As I grow in age and in Godly wisdom, I have come to realize that humility and self-control are a huge part of living a God centered life. If I act in love, I humble myself to understand how another person feels, more so than how I may feel about them in the moment. It becomes, “not so important” for others to see things my way or to see a situation as I see it, if it’s causing anger or strife between us.

If you are struggling in a relationship and you want to talk, but you feel as if you can’t have a conversation, for fear of not being understood, or you feel as though anger may take control of that conversation, pray for God to create an opportunity (an appointed time) for a conversation to take place, where you both can listen and be heard in love and with understanding, and where a resolution will take place. You’ll know when it’s the right time if you remain prayerful concerning your needs.

I wrote this blog over a year ago but because of today’s sermon on repairing relationships, I felt there need to repository it.

Matthew 5:33
If you have an offering and there at the alter you remember that your” brother” (husband,wife, sister, friend) has something against you, leave your offering, go and be reconciled and then bring your offering