A Recipe for Longevity

I thought this could really help those of you dating or thinking of marriage. These questions were on a morning show I watch and I wanted to share them with you;

*Know who you are, but realize you are ever changing and you need someone willing to evolve with you

*Are you a better person because of them (do they bring out the best in you)

*Are you a balanced couple (religion, children, interests, finance..,). Talk about your differences

*Can you have fun apart (if they only want to be with you and can’t seem to have a life aside from you that may be a red flag)

*Are you a parent or a partner (make sure that you are not getting involved with someone who needs you for unhealthy reasons)

*Do they have your back (are they supportive of you)

Communication is key in all relationships. Just some food for thought ūü§Ē

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It‚Äôs Time To Make A Change

Friendships are beautiful most of the time but there are some that can be unhealthy;

Have you ever been involved with someone who seems to always keep something going (troublemaker, liar, or even bullies)?

The Bible is our instruction on everything! including how we deal with people in every walk of life.  If someone is a troublemaker, a habitual liar or someone who looks down on others (thinks too highly of themselves), they may be your friend but you have not been able to influence them to behave better-then you should probably not deal with them regularly. The Bible warns that if you are not careful they will end up influencing you instead!

Proverbs 22:24-25 “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare”

Titus 3:10 ¬†“As for a person who stirs up division, after warning them once and then twice, have nothing more to do with them”

Matthew 5:9 ‚ÄúBlessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God”

Love is Patient and Kind

There seems to be a running theme with people today, It is impatience and intolerance. We don’t seem to be able to contain our anger or frustrations with one another and it’s affecting the lives of our families and friends greatly.

It’s funny though (not ha ha) how we tend to choose who we are patient with (who receives our full wrath) and who we choose to be tolerant with instead of extending ¬†grace to everyone indiscriminately. ¬†Sadly our tolerance is less with our spouses, children and family members and more with strangers¬†ūüėě.

If we consistently conduct our lives in love, then we show the same love to everyone which our heavenly Father shows toward us daily.

Love is patience, kind, full of joy, showingself control…Galatians 5:22

Proverbs 19:11

Proverbs 22:4

Proverbs 29:11

Let It Breathe

I know I’ve said it before and I will continue saying it! “No relationship will last without good communication”. I have come to recognize the older my husband and I get, the more we have and are changing. If we are still adjusting our behavior for one another after 36 years, you must understand, especially if you are just starting out, you’ve got to “dig in”, and be committed to putting the work into your relationship it takes to sustain, nurture and grow a loving for years to come.

Do not assume anyone knows how you feel, talk about what annoys you and what troubles you especially your likes and dislikes. Work through your differences, leave no room for misunderstandings.

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Marriage is Give & Take

Marriage is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, and the best advice I can give is, don’t be selfish! If you know you are bad with money and even though they do things differently from you, they seem to have a better relationship with finances than you do, give up the power!! Hand over the responsibility of bill paying, spending, and saving, and be willing to take good advice from your “better half“, cause they got it going on in that department !!

I know of what I speak because I did it, and things got so much better once I saw things my husbands way, (He’s gonna love this post!). We got so good at managing our finances that we are now debt free!! I’m not bragging, I’m just trying to help someone. I’m so glad I stopped being selfish and put into practice my husbands (vision) way of doing things because we still love each other and we are living the life God promised us!

If you recognize yourself in this post, don’t be so stubborn that you continue in the wrong direction just to spite your spouse and yourself! Be flexible and be honest concerning your weaknesses and flaws. Things can and most likely will change with your cooperation.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God‚ÄČ‚Äč‚ÄĒ‚ÄČ‚Äčwho gives to all generously and ungrudgingly‚ÄČ‚Äč‚ÄĒ‚ÄČ‚Äčand it will be given to him. ‚ÄĒJames 1:5

Go on! Do something!

Do you recall all the effort you used to put into Valentines Day when you were dating or back in the early years of your marriage?

I challenge you to think again about how you used to get their attention romantically. Why not do that (Yes! that right there!) again.

Relationships grow apart when we don’t prioritize one another, when we lose interest in what makes our loved ones happy. Don’t allow that to happen in your relationship any longer.

15 Seconds of Fame

In a time when “Random acts of kindness” seem to be strategically set up, recorded and publicized regularly on social media, and news outlets, we (Christ followers) must know and remember that Gods word says good deeds done in secret are really the ones that count.

Is what you do Gods work? Is it really from the heart? Or are you looking for your 15 seconds of fame?

Matthew 6:1

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

Hebrews 13:16

Do not neglect to do good, and to share what you have, for such sacrifices please God