A disagreement may have angered you, and it still may not be resolved but you should love them enough to be concerned about them, even if they dont know your doing it!
This is an awesome blog from a fellow blogger. I’ve talked about the same thing before as well. Be carful not to get caught up in busyness, it can be the “devil” in your relationship
Busyness…I wonder sometimes if we will ever get it. I HATE being busy. I DESPISE it. But it is the time of season around here where it is inevitable. We spend most of the winter quietly going out of our minds with little to do then BAM!@$&@….busyness hits you out of no where. When you live on 900 acres there is always a project, always ongoing lawn care, landscaping, yard work and cleanup. So it’s these days that my husbands eyes don’t meet mine for dinner til 9, 10, sometimes 11pm at night.
The reason I’m writing about busyness is because It seems a lot of people I talk to these days are busy, and with busyness comes petty arguments and fights, nitpicking, ornery comments, snide remarks and fighting over really the most stupid things!
Can you believe my hubby and I got into an argument recently over following directions?…
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I was sitting in deep thought as I watched my husband taking a nap the other day, I was thinking about how my he and I are older now with grown children and grandchildren, yet when I look at him, I see him not his age, not his flaws. I am amazed at how much I still love the man I see. He is so funny, kind and even more thoughtful than he was as a young man.
I know marriage can be challenging, but I promise you, if you put God first, keep loving, keep laughing and keep sharing, it gets easier and easier as the years go by, and they will go by faster than you can imagine
You could be rejected and not understand what’s happening. So let me help you out. When you keep reaching out, and they don’t reciprocate (return the gesture) it may be that they don’t want to talk, be friends, or communicate with you any longer. You should understand that most relationships are meant to be lifelong.
Try not to be upset if you are being ignored, avoided, or even “unfriended on social media”. See your own worth and decide that you are going to be adult about this, and even be okay with greeting them with a smile if you see them in passing.
So have your moment of “How dare they reject me” then tell yourself, If they want to go, let them go!
1 Peter 2:4 ESV, ” As you come to Him (Jesus),He is a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious”
I have always wondered how kids with the same parents can be so different. Although I love my siblings, we are not extremely close. My oldest sister who has always identified as “The black sheep” of the family went so far as to move to the midsection of the country all on her own years ago but even as teenagers I never allowed her to get too far from me. I’m that one who makes sure to always keep in touch.
Well that same sister recently had a heart attack and has since passed away. I’m okay because I know I did my part in keeping a relationship with her. I always told her that I loved her, and I made sure we talked pretty regularly, as a matter of fact the day before she went to the hospital we spoke and she was so excited about finally learning how to text on her new phone. I laughed because she really had not gotten the hang of it (so cute).
I said all that to say, no matter what the circumstance, family is just that “family”. Don’t allow arguments, differences or misunderstandings to keep you from communicating. Don’t wait until it’s too late to say “I love you”, “I’m sorry or “I was wrong, forgive me”. Don’t wait to show your loved ones you care, even if the issue hasn’t been totally resolved.
If you love them, tell them while you can, because living with the guilt of being too stubborn to talk or even to tolerate them because of your differences may be more than you can bare if they are suddenly taken from you forever.
Luke 17:3-4 So if your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke (tell) them and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin (offend) against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying, “I’m sorry”, you must forgive them
Matthew 6:14-15. For if you forgive others when they sin against you (offend ), your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sin, your Heavenly Father will not forgive you sin (offenses) against Him!
Then why do you think it’s so hard sometimes to be patient, to smile or to even speak kind words to the person who you stood before God and in the presence of witnesses, and pledged (vowed) to love, honor, and cherish, “till death us do part”.
Maybe this is you, and maybe you’ve attempted to change in the past but sadly find yourself always falling back into your old ways of anger, hostility, intolerance, or even impoliteness. Paul (the writer of Romans) says, “When I would do good, evil is always present”. This scripture is proof that we need God to help us with our behavior as well as lifes challenges which we are not capable of overcoming of our own strength. I have a solution!! Why not Ask God!!. He made you, He knows your every weakness, strength and your hearts desire to be a better you. Think about it, we tend to pray about everything else that seems to be of importantance to us, why not our relationship problems, our bad habits, and especially childhood issues which we haven’t yet resolved. If not resolve, overcome, or controlled, they will truly reak havoc on a relationship in adulthood.
Now please understand, a change can never take place if you don’t recognize that you are guilty of any of these behaviors. My prayer for you, is that you are first honest enough to recognize the truth about yourself, and from this day forward you would at least treat one another with the common courtesy and the respect you may show to your coworkers, and even complete strangers! We all have do it! I’ve been guilty of the same behavior myself, but thank God for allowing me to see my own flaws and then I correct myself.
Don’t put it off, start by pledging not to leave your home another day, and allow yourself to treat coworkers, associates or even perfect strangers better than the person you vowed to love, honor and cherish! Practice better behavior, speaking kindly, softly, and lovingly.
Our mission above all in marriage should be, to love each other as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.
1. Love flows through a marriage which lives up to mutual responsibility and respect. Love is not self seeking, it’s not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong doings. (1 Corinthians 13:5)
2. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
3. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13)