I am using an snippet from a fellow blogger (Loftspeaker1) who’s definitely got it right in my humble opinion when it comes to wives (or husbands) who long for more affection, that “New love” type of affection in their marriage again.
If there’s still a longing for romance bottle up inside you (because it’s almost nonexistent) , let that energy flow from inside you. Instead of wondering “Where is the love”, let it pour out of you back into your marriage again. SHOW your spouse what you need just like you used to. Let the romance you show them be the model of what you’d like shown back to you. Plan a romantic getaway, write them some love notes (be graphic), make candlelit dinners just for them. Let it be an ongoing building up of romance, excitement and expectation of what your plans are for them. They’ll be wondering what you’re going to do next and will hopefully use your acts/ ideas as a model for when they try to do a little something romantic for you next time.
Hebrews 13:4-6 “Marriage is honorable in all, and the marriage bed undefiled”
So, go get your sexy, spicey hot relationship back, there’s nothing holding you back but you, and remember this, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”. Do Not give up if it fails the first time.