I have never been able to understand the level of complacency most couples experience once we say” I do”. We slowly but surely forget the euphoria of the days of dating, how we spoke kind words, how we tried never to offend one another, Oh but now! It seems as though our goal at times is to intentionally harm, to cause real damage to our spouses confidence (In the heat of the moment). The thing is, that moment will pass, and we will more than likely regret the harsh thing we may have said. The fact is, we will never be able to take back the hurt, pain or insecurity we have caused. Sadly we are able to inflict pain because we have been privileged to know them better than most in the name of love.
The best practice is to try to always speak with love and kindness, so when strife arises, and it will, we will be able to respond softly, kindly and with love, always considering our lived ones feelings.
A couple of Sundays ago, I was blessed by Pastor David Jeremiah (television pastor), and then by a young gospel DJ (Willie Moore Jr). He spoke the exact words as Dr. Jeremiah. In marriage and/or relationships, We must;
1. Speak kind words
2. Speak softly
3. Speak lovingly
This brings about understanding, compassion, peace, and intimacy. Isn’t that what we all desire?
We cannot decide, “Lord I’m just not there yet”. Instead, we should pray for Gods strength within us, to cause us to be able to live in obedience to His word, and know without a doubt that with God’s help, we can do all things (Phillipians 4:13).
If you abide in me and my word abide in you, you can ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you. By this God is glorified….