I had a moment this morning, and I decided I should revisit this subject from my first few months of blogging 2014. It’s aways relevant
“Why is today’s woman too much of an independent, intelligent and strong woman to be a willing subject in a marriage “submissive” Is it because we have been led to believe that being submissive is being a sexual object or a slave to man and not having your own will or opinions. The word submissive is simple when you are in the relationship for all the right reasons, love and respect come easily then. Marriage is a union between a man and a woman (Yes) not ownership of another being. If a man loves a woman then she is who he desires to please and provide for as much as he is able, and in return she should to want to please him in more ways than just sexually. He should not have to ask her to keep the house clean or prepare a meal if that’s what she knows he desires? It also means you look to one another for pleasure as well as support.
Be mindful as Christians that we look to Christ for help when we need it. St. John 15:5 b. “Apart from Me, you can do nothing”. The Living Word for Living Life/Gods Path to Success in Every Situation says; Out of respect for Christ be courteously reverent to one another”. Wives understand and support your husbands in ways that show your love for Christ. The Husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does for the church, not domineering but by cherishing, So just as the church submits to Christ as he is exercising such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives exactly how Christ did with a love that is giving Not getting. Everything He does and says should be designed to bring the best out of her”. 1 Peter 1:22 NLT version says , The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs (emotional as well as physical). There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated by your life of Holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance- styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes- but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. Proverbs 21:21. He who earnestly seeks after and craves righteousness, mercy and loving kindness will find life in addition to righteousness (right standing with God) and honor. If your profess God, you must live God all the time so that when issues arise (and they will) your prayers may be answered 1 Peter 3:7. “Likewise husbands , live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the of the Grace of life, so that your prayers not be hindered” Yes!
There are those who made or are making a decision to be with someone for all the wrong reasons, lust, financial stability, status, family etc., Be careful what you do out of selfish desire at any cost. Those kinds of relationships come with a price and rarely last. You may get the family, social status, and/or financial stability however; you might also be miserable because you didn’t seek after real love, Godly love, the kind of love which brings with it all you need to weather any storm together. Mathew 6:33 “But seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added”.
Marriage isn’t that difficult, It’s commitment, and takes time to learn what works and doesn’t work for each of you but it is so much easier when you love as you want to be loved. 1Peter 4:8 “Love covers a multitude of sin” ( forgives and disregards the offenses of others)