You know how you dread family gatherings because you always end up doing or saying something you wish you hadn’t, “people pushing your buttons on purpose” or so you think. You are not alone! But!! I have a suggestion that may help. Make up your mind that everyone is not like you, they don’t always do things your way, they don’t always like everything you like, and you can deal with anyone and anything for a short period of time. Learn to accept people for who they are, whether they are loud and obnoxious, totataly condescending or painfully shy. Actually, we are all far from perfect, So put your big girl and big boy panties on, bite your tongue, be patient and be kind. No matter how you may feel about that person, nothing which causes you to avoid or to mistreat another human being is worth holding on to.
Search yourself and be honest, are you using how you feel as an excuse to act badly towards someone, to avoid family or are you seeking attention or sympathy from others by how you act out during gatherings? Remember that God knows all and He sees everything. We will be judged by our actions and we will give in account for our wrong doing, Period! God gave His only Son for the forgiveness of our sins, so why do we have the right to hold onto grudges, or bad feelings against anyone?
Now, as we all prepare to be with family and friends this holiday season, it is very simple if you desire to change and to please God. Pray and ask God to help you to be kind and to show His love. He looks over our faults everyday and still gives us grace and mercy. It is after all, the one thing He requires of us the most.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.