In order to operate in love, we must be willing to accept criticisms. My pastor preached a sermon not to long ago in which he said, ” if people in your life who don’t even know each other say the same thing about you or your personality, it must be true”!! If that is you, don’t become defensive, or frustrated, instead evaluate what is being said about you, and be brutally honest in the process. In my house we say “check yourself”. When you find the an unflattering truth about yourself, ask God to help you to change it. I say “ask God” because we all know when we are wrong for the most part, and we sometimes try to change but we always seem to fall back into those old ways or habits, we may not even like about ourselves.
Remember, if it were simple, you wouldn’t still be trying to change. The best way to become a better person is by being a loving person, a person who loves enough to change hurtful or harmful ways, bad attitudes and bad habits . It’s for your own good as well as for the good of those who love you and those who are forced to deal with you each and everyday.
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”d says the Lord. 20On the contrary: