You know those times that you’ve said, “I’m not going to say anything”, “I’m gonna keep my feelings to myself”, and it’s all because you feel as though it doesn’t matter anyway! This is a constant struggle for me, and I know I’m not alone in this struggle, that’s why I say to you all regularly to try and fellowship with other believers, other couples because, we must understand that we are not alone in our struggles with marriage and relationships. No matter how many times my husband and I get together with other couples, we realize that we all (young and older) have things in common. We can all help one another sometimes with a simple lite hearted discussion (You can’t tell everyone your issues though, be prayerful about who and how you share, and never, never, never try to shame, or anger your spouse in public). It never turns out well.
In the bible, Paul reminds us of the same human struggle; ” When I would do good, evil is always present” Romans 7:21, and ” For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want to do, I keep doing” Romans 7:19. We are only human, born in sin and shaped in iniquity (sin). ( This is not an excuse to be weak or Not to practice self control).
Please, don’t beat yourself up over being defeated in your struggles. Remain prayerful for strength, and for guidance, and learn to identify your triggers (things that cause anger, temptation or confrontations) and avoid them until you are able to remedy them.
Practice makes almost perfect.