Every creature God created obeys his will for its life except Man (and Woman) of whom He made in His own image (Genesis 1:27)
We are not perfect creatures, we will make mistakes and God knew that. If we seek God in those decision making moments, our story can have a much happier ending. “Lean not to your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Husbands and wives must work together to agree on what is best for your individual family if your relationship is to last. You can’t do what other families do (all the time). Your situation is never the same as another families so “do you” to the best of your current ability.