Well, my husband and I find ourselves dealing with yet another tough situation. Last night as we both sat in his fathers hospital room, he announced that he was going to stay all night, and I should go home with his mom. At that moment, I recognized my husbands sadness, his vulnerability, and I didn’t want to leave him all night to deal with his thoughts alone, and I didn’t!
I began to reflect on what it means to really “be there” for someone you love. It’s not allowing your “oneness” to be separated by convenience, comfort, selfishness, sadness, sickness, pain or even distance. In times of trouble, your love should draw you even closer. You should make an attempt to help them bear the weight of whatever they are under. You should feel some of what they are feeling or going through, and it should reflect in how you treat them or respond to them in their time of need.
“Bear you one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2-5).
“A final gospel truth that will contribute to our understanding of and hence the quality of our marriages relates to the degree in which we involve the Savior in our relationships as husbands and wives. As designed by our Heavenly Father, marriage consists of our first entering into a covenant relationship with Christ and then with each other. He and his teachings must be the focal point of our togetherness. As we become more like him and grow closer to him, we will naturally become more loving and grow closer to each other” (ids.about.com).