I was in the car the other night when my favorite gospel station personality, said something like, “Your inner circle, friends and acquaintances have more of an impact on you than you may give them credit for. Choose carefully”.
As a military family, we moved every few years and we made new friends easily. We all tend to make friends with those who have the same type of values and personality as we do somewhat, but in almost every move we made, I encountered stronger personalities than mine, and I had to learn to balance what I allowed to influence me and my family dynamics. We are all products of our environment. Just as being in the presence of people who curse constantly will cause you to curse if you are not careful, because you hear it all the time, or if the people around you use the most current slang terms, you might tend to pick up on it, as someone I love does so easily 😉. “Throwing shade”, (to treat someone with less respect than they deserve or a hater), that’s her new one from a TV personality 😒(me frowning).
It all seems so innocent but be careful, because people who don’t possess your values or morals can influence your speech, your personality, as well as your behavior in a negative way without you realizing it until it’s brought to your attention. If you have children, it’s even more important because you are teaching them to do the same (follow not lead).
The bible tells us to “guard our hearts and minds” (Proverbs 4:23) for this very important reason. Life is really a matter of “input and output”, as my pastor said Sunday. What you put in does tend to come out eventually. One of my favorite sayings is, ” What you feed grows”. Don’t take my word for it, just start paying attention to who your around on a regular basis and what part of them is rubbing off on you or what part of you might be rubbing off on them!
“Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by renewing your mind” (Romans 12:2). The only way to renew your mind is to spend time with God, read His word, and pray daily (relationship). Allow Christ to be the greatest influence in your and your family’s life.