Why are we so quick to say what we will not do in or for a relationship. The thing is, if you really want to please the person you love, you treat them with love and respect, and in most situations, you receive that same love and respect in return.
The bible gives us models for everything, especially a marriage (husband and wife). Wives, submit yourself to your own husband as unto Christ. “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing” and “A man that won’t provide for his family is worse than and infidel” 1 Tim. The scriptures below explain just some of what the bible says our responsibilities are to one another.
Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 3:18
Proverbs 31, vs.10. An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good all the days of her life. Vs.20. She opens her hands to the poor and reaches out her hand to the needy. Vs.25. Strength and dignity are her clothing, she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household of does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her. Vs.30. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised. Since love must be fed, there is to be a warm demonstrative love relationship. Yep!
Colossians 3:19, 1 Corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:22-33
2 Peter 3: 7, “Likewise husbands, live peaceably with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers be not hindered”. Now let us consider some other responsibilities. The husband is to love his wife above all other human beings. Consider Eph. 5:25 and 28; and Col. 3:19. These passages teach that the husband is to be considerate and tender. The verses in Ephesians 5 teach that the husband is to cherish his wife. This means that she is to be treated with tenderness and affection. This would mean that since love must be fed, there is to be a warm demonstrative love relationship. The husband has the responsibility of not only demonstrating his love and concern, but telling her. He should not sit in such self-absorption that he does not talk with her and communicate with her socially, mentally, verbally and physically. The husband will demonstrate his love for his wife in other ways, rather than just at the time of sexual relationship. If this is the only time that affection and consideration is shown, then a wife will get the idea that all a husband is interested in is her body and that she is merely a sex object. There’s more!
Look to God, all the answers to your questions are in His word.