One thing I am positive about, is that sometimes holding my tongue (not speaking what’s on my mind all the time) has often kept the peace in my marriage.
Have you ever heard the saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. This is also true if you find yourself saying the same thing over and over and over again, you get the point? One of my husbands favorite sayings in the midst of a disagreement is, “Can we leave the past in the past”, and you most definitely should, if you want to move past the issue, especially if nothing has changed and you are still bringing up a past issue or pointing the finger of blame. It’s probably time to stop the madness. You need to find another way to deal with the issue because the old way just isn’t working for you.
The bible tells us that we should, “Pray about everything and worry about nothing” (Philippians 4:6). Trust God to fix what you are not able to do on your own in your relationship, while you continue to live in obedience to His word. You should concentrate on the things that are in your power to change (Serenity prayer). Praying for patience every single day helps too ; 0).