My husband was not raised like my father raised my brother, to open doors for ladies and walk on the outside of a woman on the sidewalk. Don’t get me wrong, he is a southern gentleman but some of it had to be taught because he just didn’t know. One of the saddest things to see these days in my opinion, is a seemingly healthy male, sitting in a crowded place and there’s a pregnant woman or an elderly person standing but he doesn’t give up his seat for that female or elderly person.
I was in the grocery store the other day and a lady who I gave a wipe to clean her cart with as we entered the store, later encouraged her son to reciprocate (do something nice in return) when I dropped something in the isle, she told him, “son pick that up for her, be a gentleman”. Teach your boys to be gentlemen (holding doors, opening doors and being mindful of others). It’s not weakness as some would label it, it is simply raising gentlemen. Teach your little girls to be strong, kind to others and polite, and something that I learned and taught my daughter is to give compliments, it really catches people off guard and helps to boost her self esteem as well. Teach your children if you haven’t already, to say please and thank you, to not call adults by their first names, instead have them say (Mr. or Ms.), It is a show of respect to those older than they are, especially towards the elderly. Teach by example, that’s the best way for children to learn.
Love begets love, however you say it, “pay it forward”, do a good deed, “an act of kindness”, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, but do it not expecting anything in return. I guarantee you that it will make you feel so good about yourself. Now don’t be upset if someone doesn’t say thank you or your welcome, just do it because it’s the right thing to do.
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1 John 4:20. We can’t say we love God if we don’t show love to one another
Matthew 22:39 love thy neighbor as thyself