Helpmate or Hindrance?

It is said that “Behind every successful man, stands a strong woman”. If you support and gently encourage your husband, he can sometimes accomplish more in life than he would have without your encouragement. I am proud to say that I helped my husband in his studies, I encouraged him in his military career and when he came home everyday, I made sure that it was to a welcoming place. I knew that was something that made him happy (love language)and, Yes, I made sure the house was always clean, I cooked and I still do, just not as much since it’s just the two of us now. I talked with him about his day, allowing him to unwind and to cleanse himself of anything that might have been an issue.

They need to know that you will listen. Yes, even though you might not get that same attention in return, be that woman the bible calls a “helpmeet” (mate). God put Adam to sleep in order to take one of his ribs to form Eve (his wife). She was made from him, therefore she was a part of him, his partner in everything, even the crime against God in the Garden of Eden. Yes, we know we can persuade them, if they love us, so use that power wisely.

We have an opportunity to help our men accomplish much more in life than they would without us and our support, only do it with love, with that soft and gentle strength that we all possess and with the knowledge that whatever he accomplishes is for you both and your family.

Ephesians 5:22-23

22 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. 23 The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. 24 So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. 25 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting. 26 Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, 27 dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. 28 And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor – since they’re already “one” in marriage. 29 No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, 30 since we are part of his body. 31 And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” 32 This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. 33 And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.


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